A colleague said today (let’s call her Anna) said to another colleague (let’s call her Katy) in a group chat, that ‘surely you should be worrying about having kids?’ Katy is 36, been with her partner a year and haven’t yet moved in together yet. Katy just laughed this off (I’m not hugely close to her so it’s not something I will talk to her about separately). I’ve no idea why Anne thought it was ok to say this, the wider conversation had been about a gift for another colleague in this context, but still it’s quite inappropriate.
Even thought the comment wasn’t directed at me, it’s completely thrown me into a panic. I am essentially the same situation as Katy but only been with my partner a few months, I’m a year younger but we are yet to get into talking about having kids together! We’ve both said we want them in general terms though.
I just feel so panicked and so sad. I worry about this stuff generally but what else can I do other than see how this relationship goes? I feel under so much pressure and feel so sad about it all. The way Anne said this today she seemed totally shocked Katy hasn’t moved forward with her relationship...yet I’m way behind that even if I am a year younger.