Would you be offended at this?

[DidSheGetOffThePlane]

I went to a car boot sale this morning and was just browsing on a stall with a rail of clothes.

The woman whose stall it was came over to me and said 'I've recently lost lots of weight. My old clothes will be perfect for you'. This woman was a bigger size than me after losing her weight, and she started sifting through a box of clothes and getting them out. They were probably double my size.

I said 'No thanks, they won't fit me' and she started saying that she thought they'd fit me perfectly.

I just glared at her and walked off. Why would someone do this? I've got a history of eating disorders and low self esteem so it probably upset me more than it would upset someone else.

This is the second time this sort of thing has happened to me in a few months; the first time I was browsing in a charity shop and the woman who worked there said she didn't think the section I was looking at would fit me and directed me to a section with bigger sizes.

How odd. I'd have been irritated by the woman too.

MNers have more interesting lives than me. I just don't meet enough deluded people.

Maybe you could have bought some items to make them into patchwork quilts, OP.

ps: no, I wouldn't be offended. It shouldn't be rude to suggest someone is fatter than they are. It's inconvenient to be fat but there should be no shame in it.

I would be offended. Honestly I would say it is jealousy. I have been a large 16 and am currently a 6-8 and the way some women behave towards me now is shocking.

What did she say after you punched her in the face?!

"Ouch"?

Why would the woman in the charity shop show you larger sizes she does not know who your shopping for.

@WorraLiberty

What did she say after you punched her in the face?!

"Ouch"?

Lol worra

I’ve got a couple of similar experiences. I’m a size 8, always have been. My SiL of nearly 30 years buys me clothes for Xmas, always size 12 🤷‍♀️.
A few years ago DH offered to buy me an Armani suit for a special birthday so off we go to Armani, expecting a lovely experience. Wrong. The saleswoman was a very tall, Amazonian type, not at all overweight, but just kind of big. She brought out a few items and said “these will be ok for you, you’re the same size as me”. I stood in the changing room completely swamped in these clothes that would have fit a man and her only comment was that the trousers would be fine with a higher heel.
On a family holiday with DH’s parents, siblings and collective kids I had forgotten to pack a swimsuit so we said we would pop into town to buy one. “No need” said MiL, “you can borrow mine, we’re the same size.” She was a size 18.
Either I’m deluded or they are.

So, she was saying a size 22 item would fit a size 8? I would have said -"I wear size 8, what makes you think I would buy a size 22" and laughed out loud.
She sounds so wrapped up in her weight loss that she is foisting it on anyone.

I’ve had this sort of thing said to me too in the past and yep it was fucking offensive! I’m trying to rack my brains to remember who did it 🤔

@Gigia

I would be offended. Honestly I would say it is jealousy. I have been a large 16 and am currently a 6-8 and the way some women behave towards me now is shocking.

Congratulations 👏

Charity shops don't generally present their clothes in sizes. And after years and years of shopping in second hand shops I've never had an 'assistant' offering to help me for the sizes. So I'm skeptical about the OP's interpretation of what was said to her.

I think you are too sensitive OP and you need to not take these kind of comments personally. Jesus. I've had people asking me 'when is your baby due' about a year after I'd had my child. You just shrug it off it's no big deal.

This whole thread seems unpleasant from every angle.

I think people are generally quite bad at guessing others clothes sizes. For instance, people think I'm a size 8-10 as I'm quite lean and have very little body fat. But becuase I'm tall and I have v broad shoulders, I'm actually more like a size 14. I'm always surprised when short but curvy women tell me they're a size 8.

If you were a size 16/18 and she offered you size 22 then I could understand being a bit miffed but you’re saying you’re a size 8 and you believe she was genuinely implying the clothes would fit you? Not only that, this has happened to you more than once?

This story is so bizarre that I couldn’t be offended personally. I’d assume she was joking or desperate to sell or literally anything else…

I’m really sceptical of you this happening twice. Two you on two completely separate occasions. Especially if you are a size 8.

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Unless Stevie Wonder was selling the clothes, even the most jealous of bitches would struggle to mistake a size 8 for a 22. Twice.

@massiveportion actually, one of my best friends is completely blind; but he always compliments me on weight loss: he said that he can “feel” that I’ve lost weight (he never mentions when I gain it lol).

@massiveportion

Unless Stevie Wonder was selling the clothes, even the most jealous of bitches would struggle to mistake a size 8 for a 22. Twice.

It’s not a mistake.

OP it sounds like the most classic case of jealousy I think I have ever heard! The utter bitterness she must have felt looking at you (so sad she feels that way). You've probably got her size 8 dream body and she hated you for it and wanted to lash out nastily in retaliation.

It's a horrible comment she made and was designed to be intentionally horrible. Please take it as the totally messed up inverted compliment it should be taken as.

😂

Are you sure she wasn’t joking?! I’m a 16-18 so I could kind of see why she would think I might fit into it. But no way someone a size 8 could

I worked with a woman who claimed to be a size 10, she was wearing M&S size 10 trousers, I'm a tall 14/16, her ass and lower half was a lot bigger than mine. I can only think that her trousers were 99% elastin. 😂