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I'm a "cryer" and I don't want to be...

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TheMostHappy · 13/06/2021 12:36

Is anyone else a "cryer" or even better, has anyone previously been a cryer and found a way to not be?!

I'll give some background...

When I was a young teenager I was painfully, painfully shy to the point when I was visiting grandparents I would sit in absolute silence hoping nobody would talk to me and if they did then it would make me cry - im not talking proper sobbing just uncontrollably welling up and tears plopping everywhere and not just one or two.

Now, more recently thankfully, I'm not as shy, so speaking to people isn't such an issue Grin but I'm still a terrible and inappropriately excessive cryer about things that I assume "normal" people wouldn't cry over. Some examples:

I took ds3 to swimming class this morning. I came back to the pool side to collect him and he was crying at the side of the pool, so of course felt like horrific mother and cried and had to walk away and wait for him to be dismissed. There were no other parents crying in the changing rooms.

I can't watch any animal programmes, documentaries or films whatsoever, because I will cry if the animals die.

Certain pieces of classical music will give me a lump in my throat and I may cry.

I probably wouldn't scream in the Sistine chapel, but I think people must think I'm a bit odd and I agree, so I'm looking for ways to be or at least appear a bit "harder". I will probably still be a mushy wreck on the inside, and that's fine, but would like to look normal and a bit tougher on the outside.

None of my other family members are cryers, so not like I've seen it and learned it as normal.

Any tips will be gratefully received. Thanks so much for reading all that.

OP posts:
FlurryMuff · 13/06/2021 17:41

@Twitchynose

Totally get this, I couldn’t watch Lassie as a child without crying. Just been blubbing reading the newspaper headlines about the Danish footballer yesterday. Mum is a blubber too. Really wish I could stop it, it’s so annoying. Only thing that slightly helps (if I remember to do it) is to concentrate on pelvic floor exercises- a psychologist suggested it!!

Oh me too!! I was banned from watching Lassie as I would cry so much I would get to the point of being sick.

theliverpoolone · 13/06/2021 17:52

I cry at everything too. I also get teary if someone is praising me or I'm praising someone else, at work ConfusedConfused. Dd also cries very easily - dont know if its genetic or learnt.....

TheMostHappy · 13/06/2021 17:57

Yes @theliverpoolone!!! Same here! I get very testy about that too!

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Whenwillitmakesense · 13/06/2021 17:59

Me too - I hate it but can’t stop it. Especially if I am angry.

WornOutWorm · 13/06/2021 18:32

I bottled up my emotions.. when I was at home was told when I cried to stop crying or i will give you something cry about ! Motherbitch

After coming the other other side of my MH battles I cry and I talk about my feelings .

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