Fathers Day

[DailyMailHater]

Boring Father’s Day one.

Background:
Me: My dad lives 20mins from us, I am only child still in uk as siblings have moved abroad.
DH: his father passed away 5 years ago and his mum lives 2.5hrs away.

I said to my husband that I was going to book a table for a roast dinner on Father’s Day for me, him the kids and my dad.

He said he thought we would go and see my mum that day, as way of remembering his dad, never done this any other year, but I get that he hasn’t seen his mum much since the pandemic happened.

said we could go and see his mum the day before, but he wants to go Father’s Day.

My dad can’t come with us as would be more than 6 of us with DHs mum.

If DH goes to his mums and I go to my dads then the kids have to pick who to go with (they are very close to my dad an would want to see him, but also would want to spend Father’s Day with their dad)

Am I wrong to be a bit miffed that he is insisting we go to his mums and leave my dad alone on Father’s Day?

Is your DDad in your bubble? If so no rules broken.

Go for lunch with your dad and the kids, he can see his mum.

@OddsNSodsBitsNBobs I’m confused; we can see people indoors now…..

I think you’re over complicating it really; you go and see your dad and your DC spend Father’s Day with their dad doing what he wants on Father’s Day to remember his dad. Father’s Day isn’t about grandparents so your DC don’t necessarily need to see your dad.
I lost my dad 10 years ago and i do things for DH for Father’s Day but I still find it hard when we see his dad as it rubs it in that I don’t have my dad to see.

Could your dad come with you to his mums ? I know it will be 7 instead if 6 but not sure if that's a massive deal really. Especially if they have both had their Jabs.

Would it be fair to leave your dad alone on fathers day? Probably would not be nice . But would your husbands mum be left alone that day? Would that be fair on her?

Could you go to his mum/ your dad the day before/after. Its not like its Xmas day or something. I think fathers day /mothers day is lesser of a big deal and probably would not be a massive deal if you done it day b4/after

You’re not wrong at all. Why doesn’t he want to spend Father’s Day with his children? Doesn’t it matter to him that it might mean something to them? He can see his mum any other day.

If he won’t budge, then tell the kids you’re going to see your dad/their granddad.

@32Bksjshsbbev2737

Rule of 6/ 2 households inside still applies. That's why I'm asking if OPs Dad is in her bubble...

Let your kids give their father gifts, cards and breakfast in the morning then you and dc go off to see your dad while dh goes off to see his mum, all get back together for a nice evening.

@32Bksjshsbbev2737, as in OP has said that with MIL there are 6 of them add her dad makes 7. If OP has formed a bubble with her dad (speculation here) they are 1 household and are still allowed to meet a second household irrelevant if the rule of 6.

@OddsNSodsBitsNBobs ah yes sorry I was thinking she meant in terms of people travelling

I’m surprised that people think it’s more important for DC to see their grandfather rather than spend the day with their dad and him get to do what he wants on Father’s Day. On Mother’s Day would you expect a mum to spend it with her mil rather than do what she wants with her kids

@Bksjshsbbev2737

I’m surprised that people think it’s more important for DC to see their grandfather rather than spend the day with their dad and him get to do what he wants on Father’s Day. On Mother’s Day would you expect a mum to spend it with her mil rather than do what she wants with her kids

No, but a mum may want to spend it with her own mother. Op wants to see her own dad on Father’s Day. It doesn’t have to be a whole day thing.

My partner spends mother's day and fathers day with his parents. They are in their 18s so probably don't have many left.