I’ve been dating someone the last few weeks and noticed some traits that I haven’t seen before in someone. I really like the guy but just want to understand if he’s not arsed (he says he really really is!) or if he’s messing me about or something.
Timings/plans - everything has to be organised and thought about. Not down to the final minute and he’s fine if things are late or we leave late etc but if I suggest a night away it’s like he needs approval from the Queen. He has to check every eventuality, says how he doesn’t think it’s possible but really wants to.we’ve gone away once and he enjoyed it but I could tell the whole thing took far more planning than it would with someone else. I will suggest something on a Tuesday and by Friday he might have come to a view on it. Even something as simple as which restaurant to go to.
Change to plans. This causes him to be silent and stare into space for a while. Minor change he is ok but he has set rounties like he has to go a certain way to work on the train and I couldn’t possibly drop him off as he doesn’t know the route or traffic etc.
He is affectionate and loving but cannot seem to express himself with words without a lot of effort. He seems to put masses of thought in. I do this too but he seems almost anxious about it.
Constant worrying, about everything. He’s a happy person and we have a laugh but he’s always concerned in some way, quite serious.
I have fallen for him so none of this is a criticism, it just seems very unusual?!