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Saying thank you to thank yous...

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ChampagneTastes · 11/06/2021 16:51

I am going to preface this with the fact that it's recently become obvious that I should be assessed for autism. I have no idea if it's relevant but I thought I'd mention it just in case.

I recently did some work for someone for free. They had approached me in my professional capacity but it became clear that they could not afford my prices (and would struggle to afford anyone really). I liked them and considered the job one that would improve my skillset anyway so I offered to do the work pro bono. It went well; they were happy and we all enjoyed the experience.

Here's the thing: they have sent me a gift. It is not a small gift and, although it is probably only about a fifth of the value of the time I gave them, it is not inexpensive. It is a really thoughtful kind gift but I feel awkward about accepting something from them when I was really trying to save them money for something important. And I don't really know what the etiquette is now - is it ok to email thank you? Do I gush? Do we end up in an endless spiral of thank yous? And actually should I accept it at all? It's a couple of hundred quid - I thought they might send me a bunch of flowers, I didn't expect this!

God I realise I am an arsehole but I've never really known what to do with gratitude or compliments. Could someone advise me please?

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PurpleDaisies · 11/06/2021 16:52

It would be rude not to say thank you for the gift.

That should be the end of the matter.

DDiva · 11/06/2021 16:55

A short email saying thank you for the gift, you enjoyed the project and were pleased to help should suffice.

PurpleDaisies · 11/06/2021 16:56

Sorry, pressed post.

Send a short email saying that you for the thoughtful gift. Say something about looking forward to working with them in the future should the opportunity arise. I wouldn’t expect another email after that with more thanks.

ChampagneTastes · 11/06/2021 16:59

Yes - it's obvious really isn't it? God I'm terrible at this stuff.

Something along the lines of:

Thank you so much for your thoughtful gift, it has been a pleasure working with you and I wish you every success in the future.

How's that?

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DDiva · 11/06/2021 17:02

@ChampagneTastes

Yes - it's obvious really isn't it? God I'm terrible at this stuff.

Something along the lines of:

Thank you so much for your thoughtful gift, it has been a pleasure working with you and I wish you every success in the future.

How's that?

Perfect.
PurpleDaisies · 11/06/2021 17:04

That’s absolutely fine. My primary school teacher hat is making me want to fix the comma splice but that’s a minor thing.

Thank you so much for your thoughtful gift. It has been a pleasure working with you and I wish you every success in the future.

purpleme12 · 11/06/2021 17:04

Agree with others

But if the gift was a couple of hundred pounds I'd be thinking why couldn't they have paid that money to me instead!

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