Announcing name / title change after divorce

[PandasCatsWolves]

I've been long time separated and divorced this year. I changed my name prior to the divorce for various reasons.

The people closest to me know the new name but some don't it. And Ive while been using the new name I've never 'officially' announced it, nor the divorce- didn't think it was necessary.

I assumed people would stop addressing me as Mrs after being separated for a long time. However it's seems not. I am still getting addressed as first name -old name or Mrs old name. Seems I need to make some kind of formal announcement / notification as I will scream if anyone else calls me Mrs!

What have others done? I can't see any other way around it other than to send change of name cards. I can't bear to do a cringey social media post particularly as I'm not a big user.

Sadly in my experience it won't change anything. It seems to be the default position to call all women over a certain age Mrs anyway. I still get called by my married name 10 yrs after my divorce by some people . You can correct names on bills etc and on email signatures but people seem to struggle when you change your name.

It seems like to be predominantly older generations who can't get it.

Thinking about it I have female relative who kept being Mrs MarriedName forever post divorce many many years ago. My understanding is that not being a Mrs at that time was shameful.

Things move on though and I find it quite insensitive tbh that someone doesn't think it through.

How many people address you as Mrs, though? My divorce came through a few weeks ago, so I am in a similar situation. Most places address me by first name now, and the very few places that still use Mrs/ Ms normally have some sort of form to fill in where they ask for title.

My DDs school does still use Mrs. I have a lot of contact with her HoY for various reasons, and she does address me as "Mrs Floozie ", but tbh I can't get worked up about it, because the whole point of her ringing me is to discuss serious issues about DD, not about me.

Quite a few people to be fair.

I've was patient about it for ages but now I'm less so.

Schools I don't mind they are just doing their job abs default is to call people mrs child's surname.

I think it's the correspondence from family members that gets me. Mostly older generations.

For official purposes, you'll need to send in an email or letter or ring them to change your name in their system from Mrs x to Ms x. They only send it because they still have what you registered (I assume) with as Mrs.

For your relatives and friends, they can only call you what they know you as. So if they don't know you're divorced, you should probably say so and tell them your title has changed too from Mrs x to Ms x.

You don't need to announce it, just send to anyone who sends you anything with a Mrs.

I would have thought the easiest thing would be to send announcement cards/emails. Not everyone does the same when they divorce and as you stated expectations change over time. So just let people know.