Neighbours parking- cf

[Lochnessgiraffe]

We moved house a few months ago. We don't drive so don't have a car therefore we have a large empty drive. Our next door neighbours have 3 cars on their drive. I bumped into my neighbour yesterday out walking the dogs and he mentioned that they are going to buy their daughter a car and could they park on our drive. I said no I didn't think that would work so he offered to rent it off me. I repeated it wouldn't work. He then said he'd ask me again when they bought the car as I don't use my drive and he'd ask DH about it. How do I get him to understand no! Argh.

got to love how cheeky some people can be to just not take a straight no. And asking your husband too, because he is obviously more the decision maker than the little wifey.

Maybe start to fill your drive with plant pots or giant gnomes.

Draw up a contract expressly stating that you want the signature of all family members in their own blood and the cost will be £85 a week, 3 goats and a bushel of banana’s each month and his daughters first born. Make sure your dh has it on hand to give to cf neighbour when he approaches him.

Get something on your drive ASAP. Pots /ornaments /tacks..

Plants sound like a good idea. Our drive is next to theirs. I could see them "accidentally " parking on half of ours as there is no divide

Penguin. Bollards. Soon.

just make sure DH isn't spineless and gives in to CF request.

job done

CF for wanting to speak to your DH about it.

oh yes definitely put pots down the dividing line too, in that case.

I know I think it was the he'd ask dh and ask again later that threw me.

Just seen your last post. Penguin. Bollards. Soon. Length of the divide 🐧🐧🐧🐧🐧🐧🐧🐧🐧🐧🐧🐧🐧🐧😉

Ooo I have the rage just from reading that he'll check with your husband I'd tell your husband that if he asks him, say that he'll have to check with you!

What a CF. When he says 'rent', you can be sure he's not thinking of market rates - it'll be a fiver a month, and even that only when he 'remembers'. Then, if you reminded him, you would be the unreasonable one as 'you don't use it anyway'.

Stand firm - you don't need to make him understand the situation any more than he needs to understand that you can't take things from shops without paying for them, even if 'they've got loads of them'.

Also, make sure you give your DH the heads-up, so that when he comes over for his 'reasonable man-to-man chat', your DH can give him a Paddington stare, ask him why he's asking again and 'remind' him that "you already asked us and Giraffe already clearly told you that we wouldn't want to do that."

I don't think he was cheeky to ask, especially as he offered to rent it, but he is rude not to accept no as an answer.

Our neighbours ask us to park one of our cars on their drive when they are on holiday as it looks like someone is home so adds some security. Worth thinking through that aspect, as well as a way of making some extra cash, but if you still don't want to (can absolutely understand why you might not), then you and DH need to stand firm.

Def get planters! I planted a hedge between our neighbours and our drive because they accidentally 👨‍⚕️ be on our bit!🙄

I would be placing large troughs along dividing line, for planting up prettily, and then be too heavy to shift when full.

CF, bit of misogyny into the bargain

Just some nice long planters down your side of the divide will suffice to ensure he knows where his drive ends and yours starts!

If he persists, you could always ask him which 20x8ft section of their garden you can fence off and have exclusive use of in return.

The fact is that, if you decided you wanted to earn some money by foregoing your own private drive in return for earning some cash, there are several websites where this can be arranged and market rates paid. Is he really thinking of paying a fair price for it? I doubt it, somewhat: if he were planning on offering you £200 a month to rent your drive, surely he would have offered it to you then and there - and probably also mansplained about all the lovely handbags and pretty dresses you could buy with it

* I don't think he was cheeky to ask, especially as he offered to rent it, but he is rude not to accept no as an answer.*

^I agree.

I think definitely planters could be the way to go.

I’m another who thinks it wasn’t cheeky to ask to rent it, though it depends how much he’s expecting to pay. Some areas are ££££ to rent a driveway.

However, telling you that he’ll ask your DH and then just keep asking until he gets his way is unbelievably rude. I’d have considered the first request but he has shot himself in the foot now.

Penguin bollards, definitely!

Its the 'I'll speak to your husband' part that would have me enraged!

You can also buy retractable bolards- either a pole type or a triangular thing you can install if its your driveway. That way, if you have guests or deliveries, you can still use the drive. Otherwise, get very large planters.

Definitely make sure to mark your territory so to speak and block off your driveway

Definitely block off your driveway so they can't use it, and brief your DH so if they approach him he tells them they need to ask you. Then you say no (not that won't work etc), just no

It's definitely not cheeky to ask to rent. We rented out my disabled MIL's driveway to give her a little extra cash. But he should have taken no for an answer.

Speak to your husband! Arsehole!

I do like @HoneyDragon's idea for rent though.

£85 a week, 3 goats and a bushel of banana’s each month and his daughters first born