Hello, just want some advice...
I am 27 years old and my partner is 30, we are both married and we have a little baby 1 years old.
I have had some issues with my partner for a few weeks now, mainly my fault, but it was one of my friends birthdays and for her birthday, roughly 10 of us went to a festival but it was seated, although we could stand and take photos and stuff but that was it.
I went with my friends and a random boy with his friends(3 Boys & 2 girls) asked if we wanted them to take our group photos and all my friends let them use there phones to take and eventually we all ended up have like singles with one friend each.
My best friend and I was having photos taken with each other on mine and my friends phone(taken by one boy) and then they’re other friend held the phone and the random boy, his mate and 2 other girls got in the photos with us, I didn’t think I was in the wrong or anything just standing at least a foot in front of my best friend and my best friend next to them as it was just photos.
That was it the photos got taken then we all went back to our tables and didn’t speak to them again(our table wasn’t near there’s).
Anyway I didn’t think anything of it until I got home to my partner, I see the photos on my phone and I was trying to remove the ones with boys in because I thought what’s the point of them being on there, I’m never going to post them. Plus I knew it was wrong on my partner to have had them on my phone and to even stand anywhere near them in photos so I was trying to delete them, my partner asked me what I was doing and because I was a bad liar, I told him the truth and told him I was deleting photos, but there was so many there of my friends in general so I didn’t get to them to delete any, he asked for my phone and he went through them but he thought I had already deleted some so he thought the worst and thought I cheated when I never.
I would never cheat and I’m married with a baby, I don’t commit to something like that lightly.
He believes I didn’t cheat but the fact that I lied trying to hide stuff, he feels like I really have headfucked him, I can’t mention going out with my friends again because it starts a argument, I won’t go out behind his back either but when we argue he almost leaves me, he’s tried to push me away a few times now during arguments but I don’t see it as something serious because I personally know he would not cheat, if he got in photos with girls I wouldn’t mind as long as he tells me the truth.
He thinks I should just be rude to people if they try speak to me, he says I should be because men only speak to you to make chat, but I’m not a nasty person I’m not like that, I don’t care if someone talks to me but if they try speak to me I just let them know I’m not interested as I’m married, so that is clearly a big enough message and I have done that way and men have respected that and left me alone.
He thinks if I go out now I will be tempted to talk to people and he really thinks it just takes to find a spark with someone else to leave him, he obviously doesn’t realise how much he means to me but I tell him all the time.
How do I fix this?