Moved abroad last year and in the midst of COVID and winter, haven’t made any new friends so I reached out to an expat FB group and met some people in the same boat, met some new people and am forming friendships, yay!
Met someone new yesterday who spent the entire time (to the point where she doesn’t know why I moved, my job, anything) telling me I should lose weight, I would be happier if 8 lost weight, I’d be so much prettier if I lost weight, it would be so good for me, she would cheer me on
I’m not slim, I weigh 120 kilos, I’ve lost 50 but obviously still have a way to go but I never once mentioned my weight. Not once.
She may well have been part of a MLM and was going to flog me something but Who the fuck does that?! I am used to comments etc in the street, have been for years but this was something else.
I spent the whole time trying to direct the conversation back to her/ away from my weight but was a bit shocked and embarrassed so didn’t say what I should’ve done which was along the lines of “fuck off”.
I called time after 45 minutes and just said I had to go then deleted and blocked her from messenger (where we’d been chatting)
Came home feeling so shit about myself, bruised and really upset. I’m still feeling all of those things but also furious at her and myself for letting her carry on.
Not really sure why I’m starting a thread, I don’t want to tell anyone in RL because they’ll just tell me I shouldn’t have let her carry on which is less then helpful after the fact!