Is it time to divorce

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When do you know it’s time to walk away??

If you are asking yourself that question then I’m sorry but it’s time
Life is too short to be unhappy

When you make a post like this.

Yeah I guess toys are right it’s just I’m 37 and have been with him since I was 19

Yous not toys

It’s hard to walk away when I don’t drive have no job and have two kid. One with high functioning autism x

Life is what you make it. Believe in yourself. You don't need a man for anything in life, yes it might help at times having support but you will adjust to the new routine and probably be happier in yourself. If you are truly wondering when is the time to divorce, I would say now. You can do this

I want him to make me happy lol if I could continue as a yes girl and keep fitting into his world but my mental health is more important xx

Thank you so much your kind words is typically what I would give to someone else but when it comes to me .... thank you x

But what if it’s me and not him he keeps saying I drink too much and that’s why but I do that as an escape I’m normal in general I’m just confused as he’s constantly putting me down where I feel the need to have a glass of wine in the evening x

What should I do ladies x

What do you mean by continuing as a 'yes girl'? Is he demanding of you? Do you feel scared or uneasy by his reaction if you say no to him? Obviously these are personal questions of me to ask so don't reply if you don't want to! But if this is what you mean as 'unable to be a yes girl' then he could be emotional abusing you. Please accept my apologies if I have the wrong end of the stick. Walk away if you're not happy.

I’ve invested too much time asking and wondering about him I’ve now lost myself along the way and I know he resents me still to this day over raf yet he and me had an abortion early on in our relationship and he has a ocd but s child with autism he can’t control it’s just all getting a bit to much now ... also I wanted to keep baby x

A glass of wine in the evening is fine!! If it's red then it's even classed as healthy as it's good for your heart! OK if you're getting completely drunk every evening then then this is another story, but a glass is fine.
He shouldn't be putting you down at all!! It's not YOU! Hmm, sounds like he might be emotionally abusing you.

Wished I had your strength as a woman that I did used to be 😊 he is the type of guy that will get what he wants always and if I raise a hand to say no it’s a major upset 😢

He’s also moved us around the corner to his mother and decided he don’t like any of my family

I have drank more while being unhappy with him and that’s his comeback to me

Where do you go

I don't have strength. I'm in a similar situation and can't walk away. Easy for me to recommend you walk away but my gosh I know how hard it is.
Makes me wonder how many emotionally abusive men (or women!) are out there. How many people feel trapped in a marriage with someone who has a level of control over them. I saw a poster somewhere which said "if you're scared of their reaction then you are being abused"

We can do this x

Any body that’s awake and can help x

You seem really unhappy. nows the time to leave!

Yes your pretty much right I am but just sick of my marriage sorry

The message above was what I was meant to reply to you

I would of never of ended my relationship with the kids father. I just needed to try harder and be better.

He had us all walking on egg shells. Was dismissive of everything that he didn't agree with. Did his own sweet thing all the time.

I was ground down and 'brain washed' that it was me I was in the wrong etc.

He left me for ow. It took time for me to adapted but I did. My eldest had asd/adhd. And my youngest never slept and was emotionally exhausting.

We are all so much happier now. Life is settled the kids are flourishing.

Can you make plans to get back to work. Or training. Get yourself to a position you are less dependent upon him. And build up your self worth. Can you start to save a bit of money.

I knew our relationship was broken that he was manipulative and emotionally abusive. I just wanted him to be the good kind person I knew he could be. But he is a user. And he was done with me. I'm glad now. But it has taken a few years to get to the point of being ok.

Make a plan and take baby steps. You deserve better.

Are you Scottish? "Yous".