Friends who never post (Social media related)

[Worried54321]

The only social media app that I really use is snapchat, and that too is limited to about 40 'friends', which includes family members and friends from school and college, as well as friendships formed whilst living in various places. Having been very close to them at some point I have never minded posting pics of the DC etc and letting them into what I get up to day to day. I guess that's what Snapchat is about!

Anyway a few of these friends never post any photos or videos. Like ever. But they must have smaller/private groups in which they do, or send a lot of PMs because some of them have a Snapchat score of 20k+. Whenever I post they always view my story without fail, but I would love to know what they get up to and what their DC look like too. I rarely hear from them otherwise (tried ringing them but they are always busy), so to me it all seems very one sided and a little unfair because they know all about me yet I have no clue about their lives.

I don't know why this issue has been bothering me alot in recent months but would like some perspective. Should I restrict them from seeing my photos? Is that petty? Am I making an issue of nothing?

Some people just prefer to lurk rather than post themselves and not everyone is comfortable putting their kids on social media. If you want to know what they're getting up to why don't you ring or text them?

I do text and ring them from time to time - with these few friends it is always me who initiates contact. There are always promises of ringing back or meeting up (pre covid) but they rarely get back to me.

I don't think it is good behaviour either. I deleted all the people who nosey at my life but keep their lives private from me. Relationships are a 2 way thing for me.

My reasoning was that either they didn't use fb so it wouldn't matter anyway or they did but were just not sharing with me so I didn't want them able to view what was happening to me.

They'll be devastated if you do that.

I don't think it is good behaviour either. I deleted all the people who nosey at my life but keep their lives private from me. Relationships are a 2 way thing for me

This. Back when my eldest child was a baby, I had a friend who declared non stop that she never used FB. She never liked photos or commented on any of my posts. I thought fair enough as she wasn't a FB user. That was until.......I went to spend a few days with her in her house. She was on FB many times throughout the day. While I was there, she told me about what numerous old school friends were doing with their lives. She pulled up certain people's profiles to laugh at photos they had put uploaded. She practically stalked certain people.

When I went home, we continued to communicate via email but I restricted her views on my FB. She told a mutual friend that I had 'ghosted' her. To this day, I think it was very poor form to pretend not to use FB when she certainly was. I was very hurt too, as a new mum, that she hadn't once liked a photo of my then newborn.