New relationship and epilepsy

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I've been seeing someone for six months now and he ended the relationship after I suggested our three kids meet each other. This is because my youngest has a type of epilepsy where she has fits thar come across as being in a trance, when she comes out of them she can be
disorientated and confused for a while. He says he doesn't want his kids around her because he doesn't know how the fits will progress and it could put his kids at risk of getting injured as she comes round.

I've no idea how to respond to this. I'm angry but so sad that he isnt interested in getting to know her.

He is a dickhead if the highest order. You are well rid Op. What the hell will he do if one of his own kids develops epilepsy later in life like I did.
I think I would reply with “well I don’t want to introduce my kids to an ignorant toss pot”.
I would breath a sigh of relief, believe me you daughter does not need to be around people that make her feel bad about her epilepsy. I have had that and it’s awful

You're well rid.

He sounds like an absolute dickhead. You are well shut of him.

What a nob. Had you met the kids or is he secretly married and is using your daughter as a shitty excuse. Either way pathetic example of a human

Honestly I'd tell him he's an insensitive and ignorant fucker, I really would. I think you're well rid and your dc definitely are. Do not waste any headspace on this horrible man

Tell him you don't want your kids growing up in the company of a disablist scaremonger.

He's single. Just doesn't feel it is right for his two kids to be around someone disabled incase they were accidentally knocked or bumped into during the aftermath of a fit. I'm so shocked by what I've heard.

He’s an arsehole sorry and using your daughter s an excuse. He’s shown you his true colours

He’s a knob of the highest order.

Do yourself a favour and block him, he absolutely is not worth your time or effort.

He’s either using DC as an excuse as he doesn’t want to meet kids because he doesn’t want anything serious or he’s a nutter and he’s genuinely afraid of what might happen. The later is almost worse than the first one. Crazy man

I’m sorry, OP, that must have been awful. What a nasty man.

I’m devastated about it. I never ever saw this side to him before now. I’m angry on behalf of my child but also so sad that I’ve lost what I thought was a relationship that was going somewhere.

Even worse he is using his kids as an excuse for his own predujice
Can I just say op there are some decent ones out there. I have epilepsy and I am married to an amazing man who has been there for me ever since I started having them. They are out there men who won’t even bat an eyelid when it comes to your daughter having seizures.
I have most friends though op and it hurts so much at the time and stings for quite a while after but you do come to see that they are not worth being in your life

Sorry meant to say have lost friends one of which was actually my cousin and his wife

Wow. What an ignorant, insensitive, tosser. I have epilepsy and it is a bloody shame he is bringing his kids up around those attitudes. I hope they're a lot brighter and kinder than him. Your DD deserves understanding and compassion, not his idiotic scaremongering. Aren't we trying to move away from stigma and bothering of disabled people?

,*othering

I think those are the ones I have (complex partial seizures) They’re not nice 😞 Anyone who doesn’t want to know your lovely daughter because of this isn’t worth your time.