Basically DP has never been good at texting. I am not into texting a lot or back and forth, my job is very intense and I wouldn’t have the time anyway.
However, I like to be in contact with a partner daily. I would prefer a small text exchange in the evenings but I would settle for a goodnight message at the very least.
My DP will randomly go 3 or 4 days without contacting me. I’ve tried and tested it...if I text he will eventually respond in these patches but if I leave it, there’s absolutely no contact from him. He says it is when he is busy at work... I get it. But for fucks sake don’t not contact me for days at a time? I would literally be happy with one short message: hey, I’m really busy at the moment, catch up tomorrow?..... or something like that. I’m not asking the world.
I had a big discussion with him last week about it and he seemed to get it and said he understood and gave me a voluntary and seemingly really genuine apology which I didn’t expect or ask for.
Anyway. It’s three days later and he’s done it again the last 36 hours. I’ve just text him to ask how his day was but I’m pissed off.
I realise I could text him but I have tried and tested this and where it’s left to him there is nothing. At all. And he is very slow to reply to me, I’m talking over a day at times.
It’s also making me upset as I’m not a clingy person. I am massively independent but when you read this back I sound like some pathetic mess!
I just don’t know what to do. It’s a small thing isn’t it? And I love him. But it’s also a big source of upset to me and doesn’t feel like I have a consistent partner.