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Possible or I'm imagining it?

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PreservativeFree · 04/06/2021 17:24

I'm 50, very ordinary looking, quite boring and a bit frumpy. Married for 30 years. I am slim and physically fit, very active.

DH is terminally ill and needs help for all aspects of personal care. Life is tough atm.

My escape is running, which I do most days, it's pretty much the only time I leave the house. I'm a member of a running club and although club sessions have only just restarted, it was a god send through lockdown because I could always find a "one other" to run with. These people have become very important to me and I'm grateful for them. I'm a decent runner so a lot of my "peer" runners are men.

Anyway, whilst I've always enjoyed being part of a club, until recently I've onyl had a handful of people I'd call friends rather than acquaintances there. Since men people have found out I'll soon be a widow, I'm getting regular messages and invitations from male club members. Nothing untoward, just messages of support asking how were doing, an invitation to the pub as a group, arrange a run, suggesting I join them at a race. On the face of it fine, but it's never happened before. Male acquaintances just seem unusually friendly.

Maybe I'm imagining it (and flattering myself), perhaps it's just everyone's glad to have some social opportunity again, but is it possible they're beginning approaches already? Has anyone else experienced this far too early? TBH even when I was young and single I never had men queuing up!

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spotcheck · 04/06/2021 17:27

If they are queuing up, I'm not sure they would be worth having.

PreservativeFree · 04/06/2021 17:28

Absolutely. They're either really lovely to be showing so much concern or to be completely avoided.

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Yamaya · 04/06/2021 17:30

Maybe they are just trying to be kind and supportive knowing what you are currently going through.

PreservativeFree · 04/06/2021 18:27

Yes that's what I want to think Yamaya, there have just been a couple of moments when I've thought "WTF?".

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