Rubbish birthday...curse of getting older?

[faithfulbird20]

Anyone else experienced the same?

I've just had a shit birthday. Dentist at 9. Need 3 fillings, one root canal and have gum disease post pregnancy. Wish I looked after myself more during pregnancy. But the extreme sickness ruined me. Atleast I have a beautiful baby.

I just feel exhausted, overwhelmed and need a break. I don't want any presents. Never have. People normally always forgot my birthday. They remembered this time but it was more stressful than joyful. I don't know what else to say. But I ended up having half a decent cry all alone today. Just to get that pressure off. Sometimes I just want to get away from people. It's too much. I'm not sure what I'm writing but I just wanted to write something so that I can have a good cry afterwards. I'm sick and tired of family using me just for their own benefit. I've realised some kind actions are only because they want me to do something. Otherwise they wouldn't even give me a thought. I'm always the last to be thought of yet I think of them first.

Have a hug. 💐

It's not about the presents from the sound of it I think you just want somebody to acknowledge your birthday and ask how you are and genuinely care of your response. I can relate to this I do spend a lot of effort on other peoples birthday, which I don't expect even half of in return but often I feel people don't even care.

I have learned that if you want birthdays to be nice as an adult you have to do the work yourself. Not booking the dentist that day is a start.

Happy birthday for yesterday, op.

Happy birthday for yesterday.
Learn to set strong boundaries for your birthday present this year and have a fab year

Aww I'm sorry you had a rubbish day.
Next year, inform everyone you are taking the day off for yourself and go and do something you want to do.

I'm sick and tired of family using me just for their own benefit. I've realised some kind actions are only because they want me to do something
I think that is the real issue here. Your birthday just highlighted the problem.

All my birthdays are shit. I don’t know why I became the person whose birthday didn’t matter but it’s always been that way since I was young. I remember going out for loads of 18/21st birthdays and everyone assuming mine didn’t count.

In the last few years I’ve just started ignoring other people’s birthdays like they ignore mine. I know some people aren’t pleased. I have a friend and my birthday is the week before, she ignores it. She then kept dropping hints about hers.