I need some advice. I don't know if I love my dp anymore.

[physioo]

I have seriously gone off him. I don't know why. Nothing has really changed in my life that would make me reassess my relationship or anything but I think it has been a slow transition.
I find myself looking at other couples and how they interact and laugh and enjoy each others' company and how natural and lovely it is and how I yearn for that. My relationship couldn't be more different. If I don't make conversation we could go weeks without having a conversation. It makes me sad.

I want a person who is cheery, funny and sociable. I want someone who smiles and is friendly with people, someone who plays with the kids and talks to them. I want someone who is affectionate and caring.

I've spoken to him about it but he gets either upset saying I have a problem with who he is as a person or he says that the issue is with me.
I would like to improve the relationship but he says I need to change the way I see things. I'm too sensitive etc. It makes me confused as I then sometimes feel it's actually me that needs to change and maybe it is me.

Well, has he changed? Or was he always like this? Or have you changed? And what you want?

You clearly do have a problem with him as a person, but are you being fair?

Unfortunately I don't think the grass is greener in other relationships. From what I have read on here and hear from my friends, it's not possible to meet the perfect man. I think that is why, so many women end up alone but I'm not meaning that in a patronising way. I think relationships are just complex.

I think he's always has been like this but over the years it's become worse to the point I don't see it as his own little idiosyncrasies.
I was fairly young when we got together and maybe a bit naive and probably didn't know what was important to me in a relationship.

prettylittlestar another part of me feels like maybe I need to focus more on the good things which there are many. But it's these few things that just stand out way above everything else and that's all I can see right now b

Is relationship counselling an option for you?