Someone says they need space then messages you. Do you respond

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Super close friend having a hard time

Says “having quiet time tonight would like no messages tonight please” (totally fine, our way of saying we need quiet)

Has texted me a message regarding plans (needs no answer) and an FYI update on one of the issues.

I’m torn as to wether to not say anything or “really sorry to hear that”

She’s been on,one and would see I e read it....I think I’m overthinking this

I wouldn't no. Bugger that.

It looks like they are playing games and seeking attention.
I may be overthinking this too, but I would be cautious and accept that they needed space rather than chase after them.

I would.

They're taking the time and space to look at what they want to respond to.
You are it.
Yay!

No leave it.

All sounds deeply attention-seeking to me.

Leave her to it, as she has specifically asked.

“having quiet time tonight would like no messages tonight please”

Oh my Lord. 🙄

Just don’t answer any messages that come in - how hard is it....?

Well she can't have it both ways

She's sent a message so she should expect a reply surely?

Either way, it's not a big deal whatever you decide to do.

Seconded

And I agree with FierceBarrie. It does sound attention seeking.

That's why I don't think it's a big deal either way.

If you need to answer, just do it tomorrow. Otherwise leave it.

That's why I don't think it's a big deal either way.

See, that’s why you’re clearly a better person than me - because I immediately read it as attention-seeking, I would definitely not be replying to her latest messages.

@FierceBarrie

That's why I don't think it's a big deal either way.

See, that’s why you’re clearly a better person than me - because I immediately read it as attention-seeking, I would definitely not be replying to her latest messages.

On the contrary

I'd just reply and if she threw a hissy, tell her she needs to stop sending messages if she doesn't want them in return

But honestly, who says "having quiet time tonight would like no messages tonight please”?

If you're not in the mood to answer messages, you just don't.

Saying no messages is v look at me

But if she’s having a crappy time you could respond. I would personally leave it till AM as I don’t think jumping when you chain is jerked by people like this is a good idea