Hey,
We are in a group of long term friendship made up of 3 of us.
Im close to friend A because our life direction went the same way. We have a great absolutelt wonderful friendship and are like sisters.
Until we have someone in common.
Friend in common is depressed and hardly joins us. We hardly ever discuss her except to check when she wants to meet and if she is ok.
We are rightly sometimes concerned about her and friend A often tells me that she knows stuff about friend B whixh makes her behave this way etc.. im often baffled because I’m stuck in my own personal life and I feel if friend B wanted me to know she would tell me herself. But friend A says she is burdened with it all and she needs my input on how to handle so and so.
I’ve noticed that however often her concerns usually come up only when friend B is back in the picture and often friend B is warning me that I’m not being told the full picture and that I need to be careful not to be close to friend B. Even once told me somethinf and concluded that friend B is jealous of me.
I’m certainlt uncomvinced with what friend A iS saying. But often beleive that she is actually totally believing what she is saying. I try to correct her misunderstanding abs tell her she is misinterpreting the situation. The session usually results in me saying something about B which could easily be taken out of context.
But what shocks me is when friend A meets B she behaves very possessive over her and now I’m
Convinced she might actually be playing us against each other.
I’m unsure why she would do this. And I don’t know whether I’m right in thinkng that.
I don’t usually discuss my common friends personal lives with other common friends and I usually think that if someone wants to share they share it directly. But I get that friend A has a different personality to me.
Anyway I want to find out if the reason friend B is withdrawn is because friend A has been playing us against each other because while I didn’t fall for what friends A was saying I think B might’ve because she was actually in a vulnerable place
I don’t know how to approach friend B and I know friend A needs massive boundaries