Reassurance on tantrums please!

[beckylovescats]

I am really struggling to think straight when it comes to my sons tantrums. He is 12months. He just gets so frustrated about everything and screams so loudly. So many times a day. I am worried how I will cope when he gets further into toddler years. He seems so young to be having tantrums. Is this normal?! Can anyone give me reassurance that they will pass in however long and he will become a nice boy! I am not thinking straight and can only picture him being full of rage forever. Any examples of how your angry toddlers turned out will be gratefully received! Thanks

I don't remember mine having tantrums at 12 months TBH. But it's usual between now and 3 because they know what they want but either can't do it themselves, can't ask you to do it for them or can't convince you to do it when you say no.

What are the tantrums over? Have you noticed particular triggers like when he's tired, when he's hungry, when he can't have something. It's good to try and pre-empt the tantrums, so don't let him get too tired or hungry, keep food on hand if you're out.

Also choose your battles. Somethings aren't worth the upset in the grand scheme of things.

Thank you. They seem to be when he is frustrated about things. They used to be just nappy changes, high chair etc but now they are about little things like if I put him on the floor if we have been sat on the sofa or a few days ago he screamed as he couldn't get a block in a shape sorter. It is exhausting!

Hey 👋 My little one is 16 months and I hear you! We have the same. It is usually frustration at anything. Being in the high chair, but wanting out, not being in the high chair, but wanting in. Not having the right bit of toast, having all the toast, not having any toast. Being in the bath, but not having the right toy or wanting to be out of the bath, but immediatley kicking off because they want to be back in! You get the idea. It’s like everything is a potential tantrum waiting to happen. I have found distraction works best for us. Singing a song to distract or ‘swapping’ one toy for another that is more appropriate, such as swapping the empty toothpaste tube for a soft toy to take to bed instead. I’m probably bad for saying this but I do find it quite funny. But I think that’s OK because i’m not getting annoyed, but laughing instead. I think it lasts a while but once they learn to talk it probably gets a bit eaiser 🤷🏼‍♀️. For us it doesn’t seem to be linked to tiredness or certain situations, just general frustration. Good luck!

Thanks @Baypony. Nice to know I am not alone! I defo think I need to do your approach of laughing at the situation. I am taking it waaay to personally.

@beckylovescats please tell me it was a phase! My little boy just turned 12 months yesterday and he's been a nightmare for 2 weeks. I'm finding it very hard to cope

@beckylovescats how's your toddler doing now?

@CC199019
Hiya. My son is now 3 and a half. He is an absolute delight. Once he reached 18 months he was getting better with words and was able to just tell me that he didn't want to do something or needed help etc rather than screaming. So much nicer! Once he reached 2 he was amazing and only ever had tantrums when he was very tired.
I read an old fashioned book called toddler taming ( my mum recommend it). Really good. Basically, firm but realistic boundaries and sticking to them.
Hang in there. Honestly I was very worried that he would be crazy forever but he is honestly the loveliest kid and I love his company. X