DP and I are new ish, under a year. He’s 40 soon and I’m 35. I desperately want a family but never met anyone I felt that way about. I feel this way about DP.
I guess I do the usual things you’re supposed to do when you meet someone...ie I don’t talk about wanting to crack on with it all, although I made it clear from the start that I wanted a family and so did he.
Last weekend we were a bit tipsy and the conversation came up about kids. He said he was pretty much ready for all that. I probed a bit and said what so you’d just go for it even in a new ish relationship like this? He said if it happened he would be fine with it and happy as long as he was happy with that person, he would want to make it work. I was taken aback as although he’s always said he wants all that, he’s never expressed that it mattered to him a lot and that he was ready now. The thing is it was said abstractly, sort of in the context of us (we are quite loved up at the moment so it felt like it was about us) but he didn’t say explicitly ‘let’s try now.’
Basically I want to be with him and want a family with him. I felt this before he had this chat but didn’t want to say as I didn’t want to scare him off! Maybe that was silly.
Should I say I want to do this? Should I leave it a little longer? I’m 36 in December and do often feel panicked but I don’t want to ruin what we have by being full on as it really is the best relationship I’ve ever had.