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Think I’ve found the love of my life and I’m overwhelmed everyday

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Whoopsls · 01/06/2021 20:54

I’m totally and utterly besotted and in love with my partner I met last autumn. I love him more than I thought it possible to love any man. He’s wonderful and kind and everyday I wake up feeling like I’ve just hit the jackpot. I can’t even imagine not being with him as the thought is unbearable. Though I’m not a teen and I know sometimes realistically things don’t last.

Please restrain me from expressing these things to him. I tell him all the time that I think he’s wonderful but sometimes I feel like I’m going to burst with sentiment and although he says similar things to me, I sense that most men don’t want to be overwhelmed with their partner’s emotions!

Letting it all out here instead Blush

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loves2plan · 01/06/2021 21:00

Hi OP, I think if you’ve been together since last autumn it shouldn’t take him by surprise that you are quite invested in your relationship? I think if you feel the way you say then you need to tell him and be the real you, all of you

SheldonesqueTheBstard · 01/06/2021 21:02

One - you are a lucky bugger!

Two - tell him. Grin

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Whoopsls · 01/06/2021 21:03

@loves2plan do you? I fear I can be a bit too intense! I just really love him. He is the best person I’ve ever met by miles. Just completely beautiful inside and out Blush I say similar things to him but he definitely doesn’t know that I want to spend my life with him.

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MadMadMadamMim · 01/06/2021 21:04

Aw...that's lovely. I feel just like that about DH after 20 odd years together. I also think I love you so much...but I'd probably be ok if you fucked off and left me.

I recommend it as a mindset to adopt. I absolutely adore DH - but I'd cope on my own without any man. Have done in the past, will do again.

Enjoy being with someone utterly wonderful but don't lose your own identity and independence.

bettertimesarecomingnow · 01/06/2021 21:06

Ahh that's lovely. I feel exactly the same way about my partner.
We met in the autumn too and he's just perfect.

I tell him tho and he says the same!

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Whoopsls · 01/06/2021 21:06

I know it’s ridiculous but it sometimes takes my breath away how amazing he is. He is just so so kind, such a lovely lovely man. I never even imagined I would meet someone like him. I know these sorts of intense feelings will lessen over time but I also know I will always love him. I just know I will.

I am too scared to tell him I want to spend my life with him. And he might be moving 300 miles away soon. I want to go with him.

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HmmmmmmInteresting · 01/06/2021 21:08

@MadMadMadamMim

Aw...that's lovely. I feel just like that about DH after 20 odd years together. I also think I love you so much...but I'd probably be ok if you fucked off and left me.

I recommend it as a mindset to adopt. I absolutely adore DH - but I'd cope on my own without any man. Have done in the past, will do again.

Enjoy being with someone utterly wonderful but don't lose your own identity and independence.

This ^^
MarchionessDeCamden · 01/06/2021 21:08

I felt like that about DH. 10 years later I want to smoother him with a pillow for snoring!

Moonface123 · 01/06/2021 21:11

Lucky you, these feelings don't come along very often so enjoy it and make the most of it. l think most people like to feel appreciated, so wouldn't worry too much, your in the honeymoon stage, and these feelings although still strong will likely settle down abit in time.
If you feel you do want to tone it down ,you could always get a journal as a memento of this special time and jot down some of your feelings.in there. It's a lovely keepsake for you and your family later on in life.

Armychefbethebest · 01/06/2021 21:13

I've been with mine 3 years I'm 40 and I have met anyone and connected with them the way i have and that's someone who's been married twice we both have kids the youngest is 12 and we have manage to blend successfully, he was in hospital all last week and i had butterflies the day he was coming home . I know i have found my soulmate sounds like you have too op dont be scared to tell him how you feel xxx

Ickythefirebobby · 01/06/2021 21:18

This is how I feel about my husband. We’ve been married 25 years. He’s the best man I know and my best friend. There’s no one else I’d rather spend my time with.

callmeadoctor · 01/06/2021 21:20

@MarchionessDeCamden

I felt like that about DH. 10 years later I want to smoother him with a pillow for snoring!
Ha Ha, me too!!!! (not your DH obviously!!!)
allthequeenshorsesandmen · 01/06/2021 21:21

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BrilliantBetty · 01/06/2021 21:28

Enjoy it!!

Best feeling. Although a little painful at times? Hope he feels the same Smile

4amWitchingHour · 01/06/2021 21:29

How old are you OP? And how old is your partner? I ask because I think younger people can feel more terrified to be committed. You're constantly told these are the best years of your life to be footloose and fancy free, so it's totally understandable you'd be worried about his reaction to you spilling over with love. I still think it'd be good to say something soon though - maybe about the moving with him (if he goes) - that's a natural opener to talking about future stuff

legotruck · 01/06/2021 21:30

And he might be moving 300 miles away soon.

It strikes me that perhaps you are not on the same page.

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Whoopsls · 01/06/2021 21:32

Not young, both in 30s, he’s older.

He was always going to be moving @legotruck I just had no idea I would be this loved up!

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Emmylouisa · 01/06/2021 21:33

When I was in love, I was so distracted and couldnt concentrate at work, all I wanted to do when I was with him was strip him naked. I was totally sleep deprived and everything felt like a trance. It was exhausting.

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Whoopsls · 01/06/2021 21:33

@BrilliantBetty he seems to feel the same. I think even if we don’t last, I will never forget the last few months.

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Whoopsls · 01/06/2021 21:34

@Emmylouisa yes it is exhausting too!! 😂

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youvegottenminuteslynn · 01/06/2021 21:34

@MadMadMadamMim

Aw...that's lovely. I feel just like that about DH after 20 odd years together. I also think I love you so much...but I'd probably be ok if you fucked off and left me.

I recommend it as a mindset to adopt. I absolutely adore DH - but I'd cope on my own without any man. Have done in the past, will do again.

Enjoy being with someone utterly wonderful but don't lose your own identity and independence.

I think this is really sound advice. Enjoy it and relish it and hope it lasts as it really can do! But know that you'd be ok if it didn't.
youvegottenminuteslynn · 01/06/2021 21:36

I am too scared to tell him I want to spend my life with him. And he might be moving 300 miles away soon. I want to go with him.

Surely you can talk about the future if you have such a deep connection?

You don't need to say I WANT US TO SPEND FOREVER TOGETHER but you can say you're conscious he's moving soon and want to see if you're on the page re what that means for you as a couple? If you don't feel able to say that then maybe it's not as strong a connection as you think?

A chat needs to be had if he's definitely moving!

AdaThorne · 01/06/2021 21:38

I feel like this about DH. I am now at the point where I tell him often he’s the best man I’ve ever known, but then we also mock each other a lot so that offsets it.

When we first started getting serious I realised I loved him and wanted to spend my life with him quite early and it felt like I spent a few weeks trying hard not to let my giddiness seep out.

In the end I first told him I loved him much earlier than anticipated but after he dropped a hot teabag he’d just taken out of a mug onto my bare foot. Who says “I love you, you cack handed oaf’ isn’t romantic? ;)

godmum56 · 01/06/2021 21:39

@MadMadMadamMim

Aw...that's lovely. I feel just like that about DH after 20 odd years together. I also think I love you so much...but I'd probably be ok if you fucked off and left me.

I recommend it as a mindset to adopt. I absolutely adore DH - but I'd cope on my own without any man. Have done in the past, will do again.

Enjoy being with someone utterly wonderful but don't lose your own identity and independence.

yes because even if its the real thing sometimes they die......
Tal45 · 01/06/2021 22:05

@Whoopsls

I know it’s ridiculous but it sometimes takes my breath away how amazing he is. He is just so so kind, such a lovely lovely man. I never even imagined I would meet someone like him. I know these sorts of intense feelings will lessen over time but I also know I will always love him. I just know I will.

I am too scared to tell him I want to spend my life with him. And he might be moving 300 miles away soon. I want to go with him.

Even more reason to tell him!