Ive been with dp for 14 years. We have 3 kids and been through a few tough times but have always come through.
I don't know how to explain it but over the last few years I'm kind of going off him. I find myself being massively irritated by him. Things that I sort of ignored before, now I notice every single time. Its not so much what he does, it's more his personality. I think I don't find him as attractive as a person anymore. What I'd like in a partner, the qualities he doesn't have. He's never had them. He's not changed at all. When we first started dating I obviously knew this but I sort of ignored it / didn't mind it and now it bothers me massively.
I haven't been in a long term relationship prior to this so don't know if this is a thing. Is it something that's common? Has anyone else experienced similar?