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How dangerous is occasional use of opiates?

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Bluesails4 · 31/05/2021 07:26

I may aswel say he's a friend, but he's someone I have been involved with romantically aswel. He's a little inconsistent! Alway has been. He's got a few issues in his life. One of them is a bad car accident years ago damaged his back. He had an op done 5 years ago and they said that's the best they can do and eventually it's likely to become worse.

He's in constant pain but ignored the drs advice to stop working! During the week he works long hours and does a very physical job. He is extremely stubborn yet determined to not let his back stop him otherwise he would die from depression instead he says.

They tried him on every painkiller and the Dr prescribed him oxycodone which is an opiate and controlled. They give him 3 weeks worth at a time. He does not take them daily as he couldn't work. So he's got into a pattern of taking them at weekends when he's in alot of pain. What I have noticed with him is his behaviour seems to change.

He was taking them Saturday. He was ok in the day but told me he was dizzy and (post edited by MNHQ). He went to sleep at teatime. He woke up around midnight and he then was awake until about 9am yesterday.

I got a message from him asking me to send him some pictures of my garden he wanted to see to advice me. I sent them. Throughout the day every 2-4 hours he would wake. Text something then literally disappear again. He is usually very communicative with me.

I left him to it, at 8pm I didn't reply when he said he was ok. But he didn't get up like he normally would. I have been awake throughout the night checking my phone. I text him at 5.30 as fb said he was online (normal time for us to communicate) he replied at 6am,said he was ok he's just been asleep. Asked if I was ok. Now he's gone again.

In January he had a horrible reaction to them and slept for ages. He lives alone so I always worry about him as he has a history of feeling suicidal too.

Does anybody have any knowledge on opiates and how they affect moods etc. Plus how dangerous is the way he takes them?
I've been going through this with him now for many many months and it i hate how worried it makes me. I try mind my own business. This isn't because I want him to chat to me all day. I'm genuinely worried and it really seems to change his personality.

Just hours before he took them yesterday be was full of chat and planning a day out for us. 24 hours later it's like he's someone else.

OP posts:
monkeysonthemoon · 31/05/2021 07:31

reported for the awful phrase used in para 4

TheQueef · 31/05/2021 07:33

He's abusing them.
Going Monday to Friday managing without then binging?
Chronic pain doesn't work like that.
I was addicted to prescription opiates, sorry to be very blunt but he's using.
He will build up a tolerance and need more and more. Eventually his doc will cut him off (assuming UK) and he will need to use. Then the risks go off the chart.

Monkeytennis97 · 31/05/2021 07:35

@monkeysonthemoon

reported for the awful phrase used in para 4
Same.
Bluesails4 · 31/05/2021 07:36

@thequeef

Thank you. I don't think his Dr knows he's doing it.
I appreciate your honesty. Would you say they affect moods and sleep severely?

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Beeeeeeeeeeeeeep · 31/05/2021 07:37

You can't date someone who is off their head on opiates every weekend for goodness sake, and the phrase 'monged' is disgusting

TheQueef · 31/05/2021 07:38

Yeah the mood is the most obvious indication.
He's a smackhead.
He may not know it but the only difference is his dealer.

ShinyBlackBoots · 31/05/2021 07:41

@monkeysonthemoon

reported for the awful phrase used in para 4
Likewise.
Yellowcrockpot · 31/05/2021 07:42

@Beeeeeeeeeeeeeep

You can't date someone who is off their head on opiates every weekend for goodness sake, and the phrase 'monged' is disgusting
She not dating, its a friend she's concerned about who she's had previous romantic relationship with.

She's already stated she's reported her own post for her choice of wording paragraph 4.

However mumsnet loves a good derail, so im sure many other posters will be along shortly to point out Op word choicesHmm

No advice op, hoping you will get some help rather than a pile on.

Bluesails4 · 31/05/2021 07:42

@TheQueef

So how can he not need them in the week? He operates machinery and definitely doesn't use them.

It's like I dont know him when he's on them.

Would it makes sense his eating patterns change massively too?

OP posts:
Yellowcrockpot · 31/05/2021 07:44

Oh, just realised op didn't report her own post.
I take back what I said re: reporting her own post.

However, do hope she will get proper advice, still.

Bluesails4 · 31/05/2021 07:44

@Yellowcrockpot

I know I will have to write another post I guess. Really wanting some advice. Yes We are not dating. Beyond dating. He's a long term person in my life. There is love between us but his lifes allover. He is lovely 90% of the time but his pain gets the better of him.

OP posts:
Beeeeeeeeeeeeeep · 31/05/2021 07:46

@Yellowcrockpot

Oh, just realised op didn't report her own post. I take back what I said re: reporting her own post.

However, do hope she will get proper advice, still.

No, and she hasn't acknowledged the phrase or apologised for it. And you know what 'friends who used to be romantically involved' means...
supersonicginandtonic · 31/05/2021 07:48

As the sister of a Man who has Down syndrome, your use of the word "monged" is disgusting and highly offensive!

TheQueef · 31/05/2021 07:49

No idea of OPs motives but that word does crop up a lot describing the zombie effect opiates have.
I don't condone it but it may be an oversight.

Yellowcrockpot · 31/05/2021 09:04

@Beeeeeeeeeeeeeep yes I do know what it means.. it means

"A friend you are no longer romantically involved with"

Exactly as it states. See also "Ex"

Anyway, I am now derailing Op thread so I'm leaving this alone now.

Op, might be an idea to report your own post or re-post without the terminology in para 4. Otherwise this will continue to be about a single word you used.

LivMumsnet · 31/05/2021 10:07

Thank you for the reports about a phrase used in the opening post, which we have now edited out.

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