Lost my dog 2 years ago, still heartbroken

[Youaremysunshine09]

Hi just looking for some advice or something please.

My dog was literally my best friend, he was a rescue dog and I had him for so many years he was my absolute best friend, had been with me so many times when no1 else was there for me, was with me when I hit rock bottom!

2 years ago he got put to sleep as he was 17 and was suffering. I still can't get over this. I am still absolutley heartbroken. We got another dog for my dd, he is amazing, had him for over a year, wouldn't change him but I cannot get over the grief of losing my best friend. Some won't understand it, but he truly was my best friend.

I have been depressed for several years, losing him made me hit rock bottom again. I feel lost.

Don't want to speak to counsillor etc as makes me sound silly

It’s so very hard dealing with the loss of a beloved pet - there are no rules, you feel what you feel.

I get you Youaremysunshine09, my dog is my whole world right now. I can't imagine how devastated I would feel if he wasn't in my life. Sending you lots of love, time eases loss and the happy memories will take over the feelings of loss, eventually.

Oh love, I had my beautiful girl pts Wednesday and I know how raw and heartbreaking it is. They leave a massive hole in your heart. I do think you would benefit from counselling, the word "pet" doesn't do justice to the relationship they have with you and you are grieving. I can't bear to think about the days and weeks ahead of me without my princess. Big hugs.

I often think about my first dog. She was my best friend. Often in my dreams, running beside me.
You gave your dog an amazing life. Keep that thought with you always.

We are coming up to the first anniversary of our beloved dog's death. We still miss him every day. The light nights make it worse as we always think what a lovely evening walk he would have had.

No advice but .

I totally understand, op. I was 2 when we got my first cat. She lived for 21 years, moved with me at 18, was my best friend. There aren't words to describe how much I love/loved her. I'm 48 now and my heart still aches for her.

I understand your pain, we lost our boy three years ago, he was only four and was epileptic, I have his coat and his collar in my bedside drawer and I get them out sometimes and hold them close, there are several grief counseling sites online for people who’ve lost pets, they really helped me when I was really in a bad place, I still cry but remember the good times more now, the sad part is that some people will say well it’s only a pet, I avoided speaking to people like that because I swear that if anyone said it to me I would strangle them, don’t feel ashamed to cry, it just shows how much you love and miss them, I honestly believe that I’ll see my boy again and that’s what keeps me going and I really don’t care if people laugh at me, that’s up to them, go easy on yourself and grieve in your own way, I hope you find comfort, there are lots of people like us.

Your feelings are not silly at all OP, I’m so sorry about your loss and how you are struggling still, the Blue Cross have a pet bereavement service, I think you should contact them, it sounds as though you are bottling your grief up and you need someone to help you through. You are not alone in the way you feel and there are people on here who who understand the terrible grief. I really hope you find some peace

Also see if you can get this thread moved to the doghouse, you will find support there.

I understand you, OP. I still grieve my special one.

I’m sorry I don’t have any good advice but I totally understand

It's perfectly normal to still be affected after 2yrs.
This month it was 11yrs since my wonderful cat died. I'm still completely broken by it. I don't think I'll ever be anywhere near to being over her death.

I'm crying buckets while typing this as even a passing thought of her brings tears. Even more so that your username reminds me of her. We had it carved into her headstone.

This year we moved house and it's the first anniversary where I've not been able to go to her grave (we did take both cats' headstones with us though).

My ex husband used to (and maybe still does) carry a piece of her fur in his wallet.

I honestly feel broken and like I don't feel things properly anymore. I'd give anything to have her back. She was a rescue cat and we only had her a few short years but she made us incredibly happy.

I have no advice about coping as I'm clearly not able to cope myself. It may help to talk it through with someone. I feel like I don't speak about her anymore as she was long gone when I met my DP so there are no shared memories of her. I can't speak to my mum about it as it brings up painful memories of her own pet losses and my dad dissolved into tears last time I spoke to him about her (he's not a crier).

I think some animals are just extra special, in that they have an ability to tune into our soul and to absorb any stress or sadness and give out pure love.
These are the kind of pets who you never get over when they leave because they leave behind such a void.
I’ve got 4 beautiful little dogs who I love so much, but 1 in particular is my whole heart, he makes my whole day happy and when he’s with me I’m honesty content and settled in a way no other person or animal can make me feel. And I dread the day he leaves me.
I can hear in your words how much you loved your dog, he was there for you when things were tough, they really do get you through those times don’t they? But equally, him being a rescue, you were there for him when he needed help and love. And that is something to be proud of. Anyone who takes on a rescue animal and gives them a long and loved life has done something amazing. Just remember that too.
You have all your memories of him right there with you, and you have your new dog to love here and now.
I dont think the longing to be near them will ever go away, but he would be happy that another dogs gets to enjoy a lovely life with you similar to the one he had.
I hope things get easier for you op x

I still cry over my cat who passed in Nov 19. I think we’ll be together again one day as dh and I have both separately heard him scratch doors to come in & jump off his favourite windowsill since we lost him, it gives a me comfort it’s a temporary separation.

I don't think it's silly at all - what a wonderful bond to have had, of course you are going to miss that terribly. I definitely think it is worth seeking help with this x

I lost my German shepherd 6 weeks ago and she pts and I feel so guilty she was 15 i don't no what do with my life now I live on my own and have no frenids no parents I loved her so much

@Cazzy22

I lost my German shepherd 6 weeks ago and she pts and I feel so guilty she was 15 i don't no what do with my life now I live on my own and have no frenids no parents I loved her so much

Wow, you must have looked after her amazingly well, 15 for a German shepherd is a great age. There is no answer of how to heal the hole they leave, for me it's always been time 💐

I completely understand, I lost my girl earlier this year and can't stop crying. I don't want to go to any of the nice places we walked her as it upsets me too much. I want another one but honestly don't know if I could go through this again! She came along at a very difficult time and saved me really.

www.supportline.org.uk/problems/pet-bereavement/

Do not feel silly. Our pets are part of our family and we love them the same, sometimes more than our fellow humans.

All the pets I have ever had and who have died have devastated me and I often think of each and every one.