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SAHM and Work Dilemma!

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LostMyIdentity99 · 30/05/2021 11:52

Hi, I’ve been a SAHM/Housewife for quite some time now but have worked part-time/weekends through periods of this. My jobs have ended due to the demands of my DH’s job, who is the much higher earner. We have no family help and I do everything but I feel so undervalued sometimes. I’d also like my own income, so I’m able to treat myself once in a while. The problem is, a lot of the part time jobs I’ve looked at aren’t flexible hours and also the holidays are limited to mostly 4 weeks a year, DH can’t always have school holidays off and as he’s self-employed, we’d lose a huge chunk of his income. Holidays clubs are expensive and I’d be paying more than I’d earn for our three children to attend these, also DH works away on occasions and has a very demanding job. It’s not guaranteed he’ll be able to do school drop offs and pick ups too. I don’t know what to do!

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IceCreamAndCandyfloss · 30/05/2021 14:14

That leaves only nine weeks of holiday to cover which wouldn’t wipe out an annual wage even on minimum wage. Plus presumably he doesn’t work 52 weeks a year.

It’s plenty doable, millions of people with children work.

Graphista · 30/05/2021 14:17

I’d also like my own income, so I’m able to treat myself once in a while

If dh is earning well why on Earth can't you do this now?!

Are you having to go begging for every penny?

Are you feeling undervalued societally or by dh? How old are the dc?

PotteringAlong · 30/05/2021 14:17

Why does it need to be part time? Statement of the obvious, but full time jobs pay more which leave more money at the end of them. Pay for wrap around care, work holidays out with your DH. How old are your children?

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PotteringAlong · 30/05/2021 14:18

What did you do pre-children?

MSQuinn · 30/05/2021 14:23

It sounds a lot like his money is his money. Why isn’t he considering the childcare aspect? It’s not solely your responsibility to fund their holiday clubs.

SkyeIsPink · 30/05/2021 14:27

Childcare cost should be split fairly and you should both have access to family funds. If this isn’t happening, that is the main concern.

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