Tricky one...DD (22) and weight gain

[bagelbaby]

My lovely DD Has over the last couple of years gained a lot of weight.

She goes running and does body pump so her fitness is fine. She mentions occasionally about not finding clothes to fit and shows a unhappiness at this. I don't know whether to raise the topic and. support/ encourage her to lose weight. She's an adult. I just think she's feel more confident in herself if she lost this weight. I haven't said anything and am aware in many ways it's nowt to do with me. But I'm her mum and I care.
Has this been the experience of any of you? Do I keep just keep quiet?

I actually don't always agree with the whole 'they know'
When I met my dh I was a size 10, over 5 years I gained weight. However I really didn't realise how much. Then one day I saw a picture of myself and I was shocked as to how big I'd gotten. I just hadn't noticed it getting to the extreme it had. I was embarrassed that I'd gotten that big and nobody had mentioned it to me. I asked dh why he hadn't and he told me he didn't want to upset me. It can be really tricky to broach this topic with anybody. However some may thank you for it, some will not. Only you know your DD here, so only you would be able to gauge wether it's a conversation she'd take well or not.

I absolutely agree don’t point it out. —Or call her a fat cow as my mum did— But if she mentions it and after listening, I think it’s fine and helpful to lightly say “let me know if I can help in any way” then see what she might come up with.

Otherwise, don’t let on that you are concerned about it, and definitely don’t pounce on it if she mentions it as sometimes we just need to be able to moan to our mums, not just be ‘solved’ or feel disapproved of.

I was an obese child. I wish someone had taken me to one side and explained healthy eating and excerise to me, before I got bullied for it. As soon as I learned about healthy eating, the weight dropped off me, and I felt amazing. I wish that my mum had done this with me and made salads etc.