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Beachtrip · 30/05/2021 02:28

At my boyfriends.
He's always been hot and cold.
We were having sex and he did something that hurt me. I was clear it hurt. He persisted.
I went quiet, limp.
He stopped and got off me. Said how it was on me etc etc.
I stayed quiet.
He shoved me off the bed.
I'm stuck here til the morning.

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chickenyhead · 30/05/2021 02:29

Why are you stuck there? Get out of there now.

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Beachtrip · 30/05/2021 02:30

There's no way to leave. No where to go til trains start running.

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GingerScallop · 30/05/2021 02:34

Can you call the police?

chickenyhead · 30/05/2021 02:34

Do you have family?

chickenyhead · 30/05/2021 02:36

You need to escape. You aren't safe. Is he asleep yet?

MirandaBlu · 30/05/2021 02:38

Call the police. They will keep you safe until you can go home if you can't call a cab or a friend to get you home now. Don't stay where you are.

Susannahmoody · 30/05/2021 02:39

Go wait at the train station if needs be. Leave, then call the police

mrstt89 · 30/05/2021 02:42

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IAmFleshIAmBone · 30/05/2021 02:58

Why can't you leave OP? You can go to the nearest police station or hospital and tell them what's happened. Do you have money for a taxi? I'm so sorry this has happened.

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Beachtrip · 30/05/2021 03:00

I'm 70 miles away froM home

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Beachtrip · 30/05/2021 03:00

Taking opportunities to reply

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IAmFleshIAmBone · 30/05/2021 03:01

Can you go into another room and phone the police? He assaulted you (twice)

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Beachtrip · 30/05/2021 03:06

I was in the living room as he told me to go sleep there
But he's now watching tv cos he can't sleep
Which is "my fault" cos of "all the games I play"
He's lovely and congenial again.

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IAmFleshIAmBone · 30/05/2021 03:08

Could you get a taxi to the nearest police station? Just quietly pack, don't tell him what you're doing, and leave. You aren't safe there no matter how lovely he is being now.

NotanotherboxofFrogs · 30/05/2021 03:30

@IAmFleshIAmBone

Could you get a taxi to the nearest police station? Just quietly pack, don't tell him what you're doing, and leave. You aren't safe there no matter how lovely he is being now.
Please do this op. I speak from experience, I walked out grabbing only my handbag from an X boyfriend house when I was 17 as he was changing the plan and was v drunk, I was to be in the spare room and he was sharing with his twin. He raised his hand to me.

I got out of there sharpish and called for police from a few streets away when I found a phone box (1990) who came and picked me up and let me wait in the station until I could get someone to collect me. Abandon your stuff if you have to, get out and ring for help to get to a safe place.

chickenyhead · 30/05/2021 03:31

Check for time of first train. Maybe a milk train on that route x

NotanotherboxofFrogs · 30/05/2021 03:35

I was also a similar distance away from home, a family member got a 3am phone call and once they knew I was in a safe place, started making the journey to collect me. You can be gotten home safely, you need to get out of the situation.

He has shown you who he really is.

giggly · 30/05/2021 03:37

Very similar post the other week, almost word for wordHmm

chickenyhead · 30/05/2021 03:38
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Beachtrip · 30/05/2021 08:46

I fell asleep on the sofa, but am now on a train.

The only people I could have called at that time wouldn't have been able to do anything. No one drives so they wouldn't have been able to come get me.

I didn't say anything. Acted like I was going out for a cigarette and have just left.

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Mindymomo · 30/05/2021 09:03

Well done for getting away and that you get home safely. Would it help to tell someone when you get home.

AyyMacarena · 31/05/2021 04:52

How are you today? Any repercussions from him?

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Beachtrip · 03/06/2021 08:10

No, I blocked him everywhere I could think of so haven't heard.

Called a friend as soon as I got home, and have been processing.

The thing I am the most scared of, is how much I miss him. And how much I desperately want to reach out to him.
I'm not going to. But why do I have such a pull to him?

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MistySkiesAfterRain · 03/06/2021 08:20

Think what you would say to a friend in your shoes op. Flowers

biggirlknickers · 03/06/2021 08:22

Please don’t contact him. He hurt you. He will do it again.

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