Fat reunion

[LadyOfLittleLeisure]

Just been to an old friend's hen do lunch and I was extremely nervous about attending as there were women going who knew me in a past life when I was a size 6 teenager. Over a decade later I'm fat and frumpy now. I know it's no excuse but I was on this awful medication and it made me put on weight like crazy and even when I came off it I wasn't able to lose weight. Anyway, looking at the photos taken today (sent in group WhatsApp), I'm just horrified about how I look I have always hated having my photo taken but this was just awful. I can't stop thinking about the fact that all these images will probably be all over social media (I don't have social media profiles) and the thought that everyone will be laughing at how fat I got (I don't really keep in touch with school friends from this group - only the bride to be). Help me to get over myself and my first world problems...

I bet every single one of them has insecurities too and are looking at the phones hating their nose or that they have crows feet or 101 other issues they have. They also no doubt just thought it was nice to see you. Are you sitting at home laughing about their physical appearance changing since you last saw them?

it will be fine! they won't care, will be too busy looking at and caring about,themselves

I know logically you're both right. I just don't even recognise myself in pictures anymore. I am really losing my sense of identity and self esteem. I spent ages doing my make up (would normally go without/very rarely wear makeup) and hair for a casual lunch. I don't think I've ever felt so self conscious my entire life.

So sorry you are going through this. Perhaps look at getting some support through the Dr to lose weight. You will feel great once you start losing the weight. You can do this!

www.nhs.uk/live-well/healthy-weight/start-the-nhs-weight-loss-plan/

How have they fared over the years?
You didn't even notice did you?

They were just happy to see you after a while they don't care if it's your ideal of you.

Thanks @joystir59 it's given me a bit of a kick start! I have physical mobility issues so can't wait to feel healthier!

@TheQueef you're right, I was so obsessed with my fat bits I didn't properly relax. They did seem happy to see me. I might try and meet up with them again before the wedding and focus on catching up rather than sucking my tummy in. So ridiculous. I would be mortified if another woman felt like that around me.