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Weekend curfew for 15 year old

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Em308 · 28/05/2021 21:20

My 15 yr old is pushing the boundaries in so many ways, one of them being his curfew (he thinks he shouldn’t have one at all!). School nights I’ve said 9.30, weekends 10 / 10.30 - he thinks weekends should be midnight! What are other people’s house rules regarding this?

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Thursa · 28/05/2021 22:12

At that age our boys had to be home by midnight on the weekends.

paralysedbyinertia · 28/05/2021 22:19

No curfew as such, but she isn't generally out in the evenings anyway. If she is, then she is at a specific venue such as a restaurant or someone's house, and we would either pick her up or she would get a lift with a friend. I would go and get her at any time really, I don't have a cut-off time.

I wouldn't want her just hanging around outside in the evenings without a specific plan, but thankfully, her friends don't really do that anyway. They spend hours sitting in parks/fields etc during the day, but that's fine as long as she tells me where she is and keeps in touch about what she's up to.

motogogo · 28/05/2021 22:21

No curfew from 15 but I needed to know where, who with and I picked up

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Lollypop4 · 28/05/2021 22:24

I think I'm a bit strict!
At 15, DD was usually in bed by 10.30 on weekends, but very rarely did she go out and she loves to sleep!!

Ds is 13 now, weekends are 9.45-10pm

LemonRoses · 28/05/2021 22:25

Would it rather depend here they were and what they were doing? Why would a fifteen year old need to be put until midnight except on rare occasions?

13lucky · 28/05/2021 22:28

My dd is nearly 15 (birthday in July). She does not go out in the evening except to organised clubs. Very occasionally to a friend's house. On a school night, I'd pick her up by 9pm, weekend by 10pm latest. I would not allow her to generally be 'out'...I'd need to know where she was.

helpmum2003 · 28/05/2021 22:30

I have a 15yo and totally agree a curfew is appropriate. Mine wouldn't be out til 10.30 unless at a specific event and i knew where they were. If hanging around with friends wouldn't be later than 9. Only reason to be out 9.30 on werkday would be a hobby.

YANBU

anothernewtop · 28/05/2021 22:36

It was 11pm for DD when she was 15.

OhRene · 28/05/2021 22:42

DD is nearly 15 and its 9:30 for her, though being honest, I did just have to ask her now what it was. It's not something we've actually discussed in the last few years but we both agree that it's a fair time now she's this age.

She's much more mature than I ever was as a teen.

picturesandpickles · 29/05/2021 05:21

I also wouldn't be happy with them just roaming until midnight, I think parents should know where they are at that age.

I roamed as a teen, it wasn't good, I wouldn't want mine doing that.

FiddlefigOnTheRoof · 29/05/2021 05:34

16-18 the curfew was 11-11.20 based on catching the last train from central London! But I was only allowed out like this maybe once every 2-3 weeks

paralysedbyinertia · 29/05/2021 08:30

FWIW, one of dd's friends is allowed out to "roam" until midnight. Her own conclusion is that her parents don't give a toss about where she is.

DinosaurDiana · 29/05/2021 08:32

10pm, earlier in the winter.

LemonRoses · 29/05/2021 09:26

@13lucky

That was about where we sat. Ours were never allowed (and had no desire) to ‘chill’, ‘hang’ or wander around in groups outside of adult oversight.

Lessstressedhemum · 29/05/2021 10:28

Mine all had a 10pm weekend curfew at that age. 9.30pm during the week if they went out.

Tickledtrout · 29/05/2021 10:36

Depends very much on situation doesn't it? It's no help knowing some girls never go out when your son and his friends do.
Where do you live? Where is he? Who's he with? How often is he out? Is it for a certain activity that finishes at a certain time? How does he get home?
Having said that, at that age I'd want him home before I wanted to sleep, so I could function the next day. So 10.30 in the week then no messing on phone, shower and lights out. Weekend -midnight unless something special.
And if school grades drop or you hear of trouble then all bets are off.

YellowFish12 · 29/05/2021 11:40

Is he at a friends or a defined thing like the cinema? Or just hanging around? I wouldn’t like him out that late just hanging out.

Minky12 · 29/05/2021 11:47

I guess it would depend on the event...roaming around till late is not a good idea, so if you can come to a compromise with him that may be more welcomed and be less stressful for you both

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Em308 · 29/05/2021 13:29

Thanks for the replies, quite a varied set of opinions. He’s into skateboarding, so he’s hanging at a skate park with kids I don’t know, some older. I do try and glean who he’s with / where etc but it’s like getting blood out of a stone.

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alrightfella · 29/05/2021 13:34

No curfew as such. Depends where they are and what they are doing.

Hobbies, at friends houses, playing sports, cinema, actual activities like bike rides/tennis with friends etc all ok. Just wandering round the streets no.

They are both welcome to have as many friends here as they want.

TSBelliot · 29/05/2021 13:37

Out with mates - 9.30pm
Our for a specific event/at names friends house later with permission and collection
Free to go anywhere in the daytime

cansu · 29/05/2021 13:42

I am going to be blunt. Your ds is hanging around with older people at a skatepark until 10.30 and you are wondering whether it would be OK for him to stay out until midnight. Is there really any point schools striving to safeguard young people if parents don't play their part? You may be fortunate or he may meet people who sucker him into drugs and other undesirable behaviours. You are seriously asking for trouble. He should be at home or out somewhere doing an activity where you know who he is with.

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Em308 · 29/05/2021 15:22

Cansu - where did I ask if it was ok for him to stay out until midnight??? I asked what other parents rules are to see if my rules are the norm. And I most certainly am playing my part thank you.

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LemonRoses · 29/05/2021 20:00

Mmmnn mine wouldn’t have been out until 9:30pm with a group hanging around anywhere. I expected to know where they were, who they were with and what they were doing.
It was never really an issue as they had fairly structured lives and activities. During the week it was activity, special event, such as a birthday supper, or school work at home.

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