How do you deal with your child being bullied?

[ImaHogg]

My 13 year old daughter has come home (from the school bus and on quite a few occasions) soaking wet. Several boys from her year (and they are from the village we live in) have thrown their drinks bottles over her. I’ve reported it to the year head, she says she has dealt with it yet it still goes on.
Today she came home absolutely sobbing. One of the boys had smeared yogurt all over her and then his sandwich. It was in her hair and over her blazer. All this whilst the others egged him on laughing.
I have again reported it to the school (and this time included photos) but I don’t hold up much hope this will stop.
My daughter is now scared and says she doesn’t want me to do anything about it as these boys are all part of a bigger group at school and she fears she will get picked on by the girls from the group.
I have asked the bus company to move her over to the one other bus which travels from our village but it was full when I asked in March so am still expecting a no from them. Failing that I will have to take and collect her myself.
I am just so very upset for her, she doesn’t deserve this, she is such a sweet, gentle girl.
And I really am currently having to stop myself from going out in the village looking for these little shits (but I know I can’t and I won’t) but I am so very angry, what can I do? I want it to stop now and to stop it escalating into more bullying behaviour.

I'd call the police or go to their parents doors.

Is it only happening on the bus?
Is there a behaviour policy for bus travel?
If there is, make a formal complaint that it's not being followed. Quote the policy.
Ask the head of year how they intend to tackle this? Again, check the school policy.
In the meantime I would take her to school and don't put her through that journey and keep pushing for the change of buses.
Your poor DD - I'm angry on her behalf too. My DD has had some low level bullying at school but she's not at all cowed by the not snitching code. School have been pretty good though.

I would consider contacting the police if the school won't deal with this

I pulled them out and homeschooled instead. School were powerless to stop the bullying. My two will do their GCSE'S in college, both want to go to university eventually.

I really want to report it to the police but dd says she doesn’t want me to as she’ll be accused of being a snitch and will be bullied even further. I feel stuck and just hope the school will deal with it appropriately. If not I will contact the police.

Your poor Daughter, no one should have to tolerate this vile behaviour.It makes me so angry to hear about these type of horrible experiences.My heart breaks for those kids who have no one to support them, nor anyone to inform about how horrendous their school day actually is.

Thankfully, your Daughter has you, make an appointment with the Head, evidence with photos of the numerous incidents and your goal is to come out of the meeting with an action plan about how the school will address this.Don’t be fobbed off, they have a duty of care, highlight all the school anti bullying policies.After every meeting(probably take more than one) confirm what was discussed via email.I really hope this gets resolved, it’s terrible.Please keep us updated.

Phone the police op. DD had an incident at school when someone threw a water bottle at her head and another recorded it 😠.

Police took it very seriously, made the child remove the video from social media and recorded it. The other kids were also given detention and phones confiscated.

Thankfully it hasn't happened again and dd is happy at school, i think it's best to report it, it's assault after all.

Thinking of your dd

Who says the bus driver didn’t report it?

Please , please go to the police- it's assault and a child should not have to go through this. Then speak to the headteacher and ask for a meeting to find out why this wasn't sorted.

My daughter was bullied in year 6 and I discreetly had a menacing chat with the little shit .I know we're not supposed to do it the 1970's way but it was very satisfying and put an end to it. I HATE bullying. Is there no way you can go and speak to the parents??? If not go to the police just as you would if an adult was assaulted. Good luck.

If adults Did that to each other then the police would be involved. So explain to your daughter this is harrassed and violence. What if she was allergic to stuff thrown at her. I would scream at the school head that I was involving the police avd tell the head to get the kunt boys parents in. They can pay fir the dry cleaning of her clothes. Makes my blood boil. I was bullied Abd even though my friend Abd I complained to the teachers . It stopped partially . I am affected to this very day And I have trust issues. I hate them with a passion so much

The more I keep thinking about it the angrier I am getting. How dare they touch my child. He rubbed some object (dd doesn’t know what it was) into her face then came back and did the same thing with a sandwich whilst another threw a full pot of yogurt at her. All the time while the others (about 8-10) laughed and jeered at her.
I want to go round the village, find this shit and do exactly the same to him.
How dare they!
What is wrong with them? Surely happy, level headed people don’t go round making other people’s lives miserable?
dohrehmee sorry it still affects you. I fucking hate bullies.

The whole anti-snitch mentality really only protects the abusers.

@Beamur

I couldn't agree more.

The 'snitch' culture is a very convenient way of allowing the c#nts to carry on acting like c#nts. Hope they face some consequences very soon. Big hug to your daughter OP.xxx