In need of an arse kicking, please

[GalOopNorth]

It’s the first day of annual leave. Got some bad news yesterday which has knocked us for six. Not life threatening but totally unexpected and will have quite an impact on us. We’ll now be in limbo for a few months at least until things become clearer, but we have done all we can for now.

And so to the arse kicking. I have lots of jobs round the house I could do, lovely DCs who are on devices (Inset today) but who I could be doing something with, but I am sat on my backside worrying and overthinking.

Please give me your best best tips to get out of my head and enjoy my leave. I feel like I have a swarm of bees inside me. Can’t settle down, can’t concentrate. Help!

Write it out, to clear your head. List what you've done, facts about what's happened, how it might go in the future, pros & cons, how you feel about things - whatever's buzzing round in your mind, write it down & leave it there. If you don't have to remember it, you might find your head is clearer.

But also recognise that bad news can leave us a bit stunned. No need for an arse kicking!

Now come on vipers, I can’t believe there isn’t anyone prepared to give me a talking to! Or a tip on how to break out of this funk ....

Oooh cross post! Thank you

Thank you, that is good advice. After that Maybe I could mow the lawn. And scream into the void!

Sorry to hear you've had bad news. I agree with jotting down your feelings or call a friend and talk it through. Once your head has settled a bit put your favourite music on and tackle the quickest easiest task, usually getting one thing done gives you the impetus to carry on.

Agreed, no need for an arse kicking. Might not be life or death bad news, but it’s still a difficult situation and the waiting can make it feel so much worse. It’s ok to say fuck it, it’s a day to potter about and let yourself adjust to the news. Hope it all works out

Doing something physical will help with thr stress, so mowing is a great idea. Otherwise, do you have a dog that needs walking? Or some vigorous hoovering? Or maybe bake a cake and have a nice tea with everyone as a bit of a treat?

Is there a chance you could go for a quick jog? Or something away from the house, a walk maybe? I find that things are never as bad once I've done that. And I'm a terrible overthinker.

Thank you all so much, you are all being so kind - my eyes are leaking. Ok, going to start with baking a cake for the kids for tea, with some nice music or an audiobook. Then maybe the lawn. And ignore the inner bees. Thank you

I do also have a dog I could walk

Sounds lovely. Be kind to yourself (says I who has been stressing and overthinking about several things that night not happen for days 😬).

Ok, DCs are fed, cake is in the oven and the lawn calls. @Myusernameisnotmyusernameno overthinking is the pits isn’t it? Hope you find some peace today

When this sort of thing has happened to me in the past I've gone outside and heavily pruned a large bush!

Strenuous physical activity outdoors doing a mundane task that needs concentration is what you need.

You could try yoga online? I am rubbish but find I have to concentrate so hard on my left and rights that that is all I then focus on.
And for 5mins I can pretend I am a zen goddess!! It may help with the bees

@GalOopNorth

Ok, DCs are fed, cake is in the oven and the lawn calls. *@Myusernameisnotmyusernameno* overthinking is the pits isn’t it? Hope you find some peace today

Thank you. You too

A nice walk with the dog, write a to do list, do one or two things then have a nice lazy bath and apply body moisturiser.

If you have had bad news you probably need some down time just to start processing it.

@ConfusedAdultFemale

Agreed, no need for an arse kicking. Might not be life or death bad news, but it’s still a difficult situation and the waiting can make it feel so much worse. It’s ok to say fuck it, it’s a day to potter about and let yourself adjust to the news. Hope it all works out

Exactly what I was going say.

Be gentle and generous with yourself, op, you have the rest of your life for chores!

A lovely walk might help you centre yourself but if you must do things tollway focus on things that will help you feel comforted and more at peace.

*today