I don't know what to say to him.

[thisisbull]

One of our neighbours died yesterday she was so so lovely. They have a very young child and her husband is now obviously a mess. I'm very much a practical person but I just don't know what to say to him. Do I go round with some food or ask if he needs anything? She was so young it's just so shitty

I think you’ve kind of invited troll hunting with that username @thisisbull

@RickiTarr should I have name changed? I chose this name because I posted about recently having another miscarriage

You sound lovely, well done :)

As you seem to be quite close, I’d offer to put some food in the fridge (personally I’d go for ready meals, fresh pasta, nice bread etc- stuff that requires no effort on his part) and depending on how close you were maybe I’d offer to take a load of washing here and there too.

What an awful thing to happen, undoubtedly the darkest period of his life I’m sure. He’ll never forget your kindness.

I would let him know that you are there if he wants to talk, needs an errand, etc. It must be very difficult for him right now, he is probably in shock. I hope he has much support. When l lost my husband suddenly l always replied l was ok, fine etc, but when someone asked, " No, how are you really"? ", l felt l could be more honest.
There is also a very helpful forum called Widowed and Young, where many are in same boat. It is a very supportive group, he will get a lot of advice.

My sister's husband died suddenly a few months ago and left two young kids. The research I did showed specific offers of help is what's needed. "Would you like me to drop dc at nursery tomorrow?" Is much better than "is there anything I can do?".

Well done for having them over night. I hope he has good friends and family to help.

[quote thisisbull]@RickiTarr should I have name changed? I chose this name because I posted about recently having another miscarriage [/quote]
Nah I’m sure you’re okay.

I just thought I’d point and laugh at the elephant in the room.

Oh sorry completely misread “miscarriage”. Very sorry to hear that.