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Need a handhold over work drama

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ErickBroch · 27/05/2021 10:52

Summary: I am leaving a job I love because I have been working as a manager for 18 months and they have refused to promote/acknowledge/pay me for this. I have just been told that they are replacing me with a manager because that's what is needed to cover my workload.

I work in a sector that often takes advantage of the employees passion for the work, and therefore can pay them less/make them work more because of this. My line manager left 18 months ago and I took on ALL of their work, on top of my own, and additional responsibilities since then. I fully act as a manager and do all the same duties as all other managers, but I am paid significantly less.

I have requested this to be acknowledged 3 times in 18 months and was rebutted every time. I made the decision to leave and quickly got a manager position elsewhere. I have now found out that they are replacing my role with a manager because, obviously, that's what I was!

I just feel so hurt and angry. Deep down, I knew this would happen, but it doesn't make it easier. I need support in trying to wash this away and not care! Trying to tell myself it shows how I made the right decision because they never gave a F at all.

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LadyDanburysHat · 27/05/2021 11:08

It does prove that you were right to leave. They don't value you. Only now they are replacing you and can't do it without it being a manager.

I have had a similar situation in my previous job. They wouldn't give me the job title or pay rise I deserved, until I had my resignation letter in my hand. Then suddenly they were going to find the funds. I walked away, as if I was worth that much they should have paid it in the first place.

Think of it as a luck escape, and experience that helped you get your new role.

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ErickBroch · 27/05/2021 11:11

@LadyDanburysHat thank you I know that is the truth! I also know I should feel sorry for whoever takes on that role because working under my line manager is a nightmare!

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LadyDanburysHat · 27/05/2021 11:14

I totally get that it doesn't stop you feeling mightily pissed off though. It has taken me quite a long time to not still be incredibly pissed off with my former employers. I didn't want to leave and loved the people etc. But it was the best thing for my career. I would have stagnated there.

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2beesornot2beesthatisthehoney · 27/05/2021 11:28

You have your new job, do you still need your reference? If not I would seriously consider working to rule for the duration of my notice period.

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ErickBroch · 27/05/2021 11:36

@2beesornot2beesthatisthehoney thanks. I leave tomorrow! Manager tried to keep it secret from me and has avoided me one on one for ages now. I got a good reference thankfully.

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Rosieposie79 · 27/05/2021 11:38

I have also been in this position a number of times and end up feeling like a complete mug. I have vowed that next time this occurs I will grow a pair and ask for a rise before I take on a jot of extra work!

AbsolutePoppycock · 27/05/2021 11:43

Good on you , you deserve better . Good luck in your new job

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ErickBroch · 27/05/2021 11:46

@AbsolutePoppycock thank you
@Rosieposie79 Yes that's how I feel. I had asked multiple times but way after I was already doing it. I am still relatively young I guess, and this had never happened to me before. I know now to never take on more work without an agreement beforehand otherwise I lose my advantage!

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Wiglio · 27/05/2021 12:18

I hope you enjoy your new job ErickBroch, you deserve to 💐

ImaginaryCat · 27/05/2021 12:55

Think of it this way, if you hadn't left they'd have carried on paying you what you're on. Instead you've forced them to incur higher salary costs, the expense of recruitment and the inconvenience while the new person gets up to speed. That's a bitter pill for them to swallow. It's a little bit of revenge!

MistySkiesAfterRain · 27/05/2021 14:02

Charity sector? I have seen this happen. Absolutely brilliant manager, asking for payrise, repeatedly turned down, finds new job, then offered a higher salary to stay. I don't know how you can expect someone to stay after that. Smart organisations get their Board to carry out a wider review to benchmark salaries and review rewards and encourage retention by paying more and valuing their staff. Congrats on your new job.

Flowerclock · 27/05/2021 14:07

Unfortunately, I had similar when I was young and just started working. It taught me very early on never to go above and beyond without the recognition for it.

I got shafted on by a supervisor about ten years ago. We all got redeployed and he made me leave my department. Then we got reorganised again a few years later, he begged me to come back. I politely declined.

MissKittyFantastico84 · 27/05/2021 14:13

Heya! Sorry you're feeling the rage. I also experienced a similar situation in the charity sector (which I'm pretty sure is the sector you're talking about here ) where I was operating above my pay grade for months and there was just 'never any money', despite people in other departments getting promotions/payrises etc.

One final straw and I quit - felt sad to be leaving my excellent co-workers but honestly... give it a week or two in your new job and it will feel like the weight of the world has been lifted! Suddenly all that anger and frustration will go - all those opinions that you no longer have to pander to or give a shiny shite about!!!!

I hope that feeling comes to you soon. Onwards and upwards. Remember, you can't change a toxic environment - you can only leave before it changes you!

Best of luck x

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ErickBroch · 27/05/2021 14:18

@MissKittyFantastico84 and MistySkiesAfterRain you are both correct! I know it's like it everywhere isn't it? There's always 'no money' even when you fully well know it is - especially in my job where I am very involved with the finances! Thank you both and everyone else for the kind words - I think I will feel much better next week when I can completely put it behind me.

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Wexone · 27/05/2021 15:01

Been in same position myself, brought in to cover a girl while she went on a project for a year, when she came back she was either out sick or on holidays , don't think she ever worked a full month in her time there. She left , i went for her job, didn't get it, someone was brought in , I trained them, showed them the ropes and all. then he left. Was doing his job plus my own, was given a junior to help me, he got moved to another area after a few months, was told by my manager i was getting a pay rise etc, found out after he lied. Made a decision after a huge row with him to quit , worked my notice did the bare minimum, didn't have a job to go to, but soon found one after. It was the best decision i made, now i only do my job, i don't go above an beyond like i did before nor do i do crazy hours. I was replaced with three people i heard after. I can see a good friend of mine having the same thing done to her, trying to get her to see , telling her they cant give her a pay rise or promotion even though she is doing the job as policy doesn't allow it at this time but yet others are getting promoted etc. Give your self a few weeks in your new job, being paid and respected for what you do. you will be like a new person

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