People who can't accept that you don't share the same interests.

[ApplesandAardvarks]

Does anyone else have this issue?

I have a camping fanatic friend who has been trying for years to get me to go camping with her. I tried camping once. Never again. I hated every second of it.

I now have a friend who is obsessed with the gym, particularly lifting weights and even though I have nerve damage in both arms,and can lift very little, particularly without severe pain, she keeps going on about how good for you it is and how I should try it.

They're both otherwise lovely people and I don't think there's anything wrong with suggesting once or twice, as they might find a new hobby they love but why would you go on and on about it?

Does anyone else have someone who does this to them?

God, this reminds me of people who try to encourage me to go swimming and harp on about how amazing it is and all the health benefits when I'm allergic to water

@Stillfunny

Oh my god... fucking cruises. Had a work colleague once who for weeks kept trying to convince me to go on a cruise with my partner, and not even with her. Started to make me suspicious she was getting commission or something!

I really, really don't like dogs. I'm not really an animal lover at all to be honest. For some reason this seems to blow people's minds.

I would start telling her your into swinging and does she want to join

@Tlollj

I know what you mean. I had a colleague at work once kept trying to make me watch shit on tv. Everyone is watching it was the reason. Not even that she particularly liked it.

Oh god I told my colleague that no, I wasn't watching series 3 of Homeland as I was sick of it and thought it had become increasingly ridiculous and had dropped in quality. EVERY WEEK he would tell me what had happened in the latest episode.

Yes!

Dogs: everybody and his wife seems to have a bloody dog/s, and they thump on about them all of the fricking time with talk about their doggy play-dates, socialisation group walks, etc ad nauseum. I don’t like dogs, I never will, and I will never ever get one, so stop trying to convert me!

Gin: rhubarb gin, toffee gin, hedgerow gin, gold flecked gin - gin, gin, gin! I hate gin, I hate all their Mickey Mouse flavours, I’m never gonna drink it, so stop droning on about fecking gin!

Couch to 5k/running in all weathers/cycling to work every day /10 million steps a day/weird weight loss diets: look, nobody is interested in anyone else’s keep fit regime or their weirdo macrobiotic/clean-eating schizzle. You’re annoying and boring everyone to death with your virtue-bragging.

However, I have a horrid sneaky feeling that I bore everyone to death with my latest craft projects: ‘you must try needlepoint, such fun and so relaxing...’. Oops 😬!

Enthusiastic walkers are the worst.

They really don’t understand that not everyone loves going for a walk!

God, yes.

I was friends for a while with a woman who was always trying to get me to join her book group. I went four times, hated it and never returned. I told her I didn't like it but she still persisted.

She was very bitchy about the fact that, unlike her, I didn't go to the gym or go running.

She was so tiresome. She stopped speaking to me in the end, which was a relief.

Running. If you ever see me running please kill whatever is chasing me.

I'm with you on camping, too. Pretending to be homeless is not my idea of a holiday.

Nope. It doesn't bother me.

Or else I'd just say. Something Curt : Can we talk about something else? It's all you harp on about these days: HRT, being vegan, covid blah blah blah, and it's just not my cup of tea as you know.

My NDN's sole topic of conversation is her dogs. What they're doing, what they eat, why it is my fault that they jump up at me and snap at my fingertips, when they last went to the vets, the groomer, the training classes, on and on, ad infinitum.

I have absolutely no interest in them whatever, and if I see her with them in the distance when I'm out for a walk (or even if I'm in my own front garden) I have to make a speedy exit in the opposite direction so I don't get caught and have to listen to it all.

@ApplesandAardvarks

Are they trying to make you join in? It’s not clear from your post.

Yes, they're trying to get me to join in, and Weightlifting friend really won't take no for an answer right now.

Has she tried to convince you that weightlifting will cure your nerve damage?

@ParvaAvis

🤣 at Mickey Mouse flavours!
I hate people pushing drinks after I said no.

I seldom drink alcohol.
When I say I don't want a wine or beer at a party to people I don't know well they tell me not to worry, just relax & have a glass.
as if I've been waiting for their encouraging words all my life.
what the fuck do you not understand about "no, thank you"?
go lick a cactus twat

Has she tried to convince you that weightlifting will cure your nerve damage?

She thinks that it will help, yes. It won't. The accident happened 20 years ago and I've had intensive PT. i've been told this is as good as it gets. Sometimes I can't use one or both arms at all so weightlifting is definitely out.

@osbertthesyrianhamster

Running. If you ever see me running please kill whatever is chasing me.

I'm with you on camping, too. Pretending to be homeless is not my idea of a holiday.

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

@Oblomov21

Nope. It doesn't bother me.

Or else I'd just say. Something Curt : Can we talk about something else? It's all you harp on about these days: HRT, being vegan, covid blah blah blah, and it's just not my cup of tea as you know.

That's honestly the best approach.

I get the HRT swizz all the time, too. I still have regular periods but very light (I'm in my early 50s). I don't want to dicker with that by taking HRT.

@lavenderandwisteria

Enthusiastic walkers are the worst.

They really don’t understand that not everyone loves going for a walk!

I love walking but...what is there to talk about?

Who knows what there is to talk about walking. radio 4 even tries to make a weekly radio series out of it 'Ramblings'. Listening to people puff heartily whilem talking about whatever is not my idea of fun.

I have a couple of work colleagues who go on and on about exercise and keep inviting me to join them. I've very politely made multiple excuses, told them it's not my thing, even told them I have medical issues that stop me doing it.

The truth is that I have an awful prolapse that causes chronic pain, I'm awaiting surgery, and I am incredibly limited in what exercise I can do. And there is a chance I will piss myself so I prefer to stay at home.

At some point I'm going to snap and tell them about the state of my mangled vagina just so they will fuck off encouraging me.

I have an acquaintance (I’d not say friend) who is such a fucking bore about cycling.

Oh yes i hate that, especially when you tell them it's not your thing yet it falls on deaf ears. They obviously think they know you better than you know yourself. We had dh's parents rave on about a certain brand we didn't use for years and tell us what we should be buying; it was so draining. It got to the point where they would tell dh what he liked and disliked when they were completely wrong but it was because they liked it....

I feel this way about people who love music.

“You should listen to XX, oh it’s so good”. “Have you seen that performance from XX, check it out on YouTube” blah blah.

I think only non-acid music lovers would get that! Having someone’s musical interests shoved down your throat, or even worse, your own music interests ridiculed or something to be embarrassed by.

*non-avid! No acid.

Golf!! My friend constantly went on about it even though l absolutely had no interest. I was terrified to mention golf as she was off!! Even if l suddenly developed an interest in golf l would never tell her as she would hound me

My inlaws are like this with their caravan. This has been going on 20 odd years, two decades of them trying to persuade us to stay. Not once have we ever said yes. It’s baffling. I