What nice things do you do for your husband?

[GeorgieTheGorgeousGoat]

I'm a bit crap and I realise I need to up my game. DH is very good at gifts and doing nice things for me for special occasions and 'just because'. I'm not so good at this and really struggle to think of anything. Most things he would want he just buys himself anyway.

What sort of nice things do you do for your husband to show him you care and you think of him?

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Drive him 3 hours over the past weekend to drop off and collect a trophy
Do the weekly shop
Find hotels so he can play croquet
Commission and buy a bag for his croquet bat

This fathers day ive ordered him a cake in the shape/style of his beloved guitar (...i'll also enjoy the cake!)

I cook every Saturday night a new dish for our date night where I try to replicate his fave meals out

I cook a roast on a Sunday

I did the cleaning before he got home yesterday (we usually do this together)

I buy him little treats such as protein bars

Lots of physical affection

Cook him his favourite meal quite often (steak, sweet potato wedges, garlic mushrooms). Buy treat food that he likes but I don't.

I probably sound like a boring old git but the most romantic/nicest things that DH and I do for one another are make the other one a cup of tea unprompted, first one in bed warming up the sheets on the other side by laying in the other person's spot or picking up something from the shops that you know they'd like.

On a Friday night while he is out (at his brother's), I download and install all the latest Win10 updates; and then re-pause updates until the next Friday. It has greatly reduced his stress levels

Cook for him and make sure the house is tidy when he gets in from work. I don't mind doing this cos I stay home while he works. And I give him back and foot rubs, which he always returns the favour.

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He works very long hours and works much harder than I do, although we earn very similar salaries so I do 90% of the household chores simply because I’m at home a lot more than he is. I know some people on here would criticise but I’m hardly going to ask him to clean the bathroom when he’s just got in from a 14 hour day while I’ve been sat watching Netflix since I finished work.

I also do him a packed lunch every day and
make a Victoria sponge (his favourite cake) every week for him to have in it.

The other thing he really appreciates is the amount of effort and planning I put into our holidays. He gets very limited time off work so I like to make sure our time together is special. Plus I love researching the best restaurants and places to visit. He’s very enthusiastic when he likes something so I enjoy feeling like I’ve planned a great trip for us that he loves.

Put my phone down when we talk!
Ask about his day
Unreqursted cuppas
Buy little treats eg chocolate bar, booze. Nothing expensive
Send daft memes

Honestly? Suck his dick and wash his clothes.

Allow him to be married to me. I'm a gift.

@Cocolapew 🤣🤣

Lovely thread.

Order his favourite cake
Bought a dvd of a film he wanted to see.

I have always packed for him because he hates doing it and it stresses him out so much. Even if he's going away without me, I still pack for him. I genuinely don't mind doing it as I could be on the Olympic Packing Team 😊

I'll often give him a shoulder rub because he suffers with a lot of tension in his neck.

And then there's also the fact I can suck a golf ball through six feet of hosepipe..........

Someone is a Beverly Hills Cop fan peaceanddove

Do 90% of the taking care of our kids, do 95% of the cleaning/cooking/tidying.
Buy him little treats that I know he likes: biscuits etc
Put up with his idiosyncrasies.

I'm a gift from the Gods

Wipe his backside every day !!

But I do leave little notes in his work bag. He doesn't do anything nice for me though so this doesn't happen often!

Make him a nice cooked breakfast every Sunday.
Buy him his favourite treats when I do the food shop.
Give him lifts if he ever needs them.
Give him facials and massages - he loves a pamper
Encourage him in his running - he’s up to 7k now, and he only started running when he was 61.
Send him little ‘I love you’ texts.
Cook nice dinners for him sometimes
Buy him clothes sometimes.
Erm...

I put the kettle on when I get my first drink of the day because it means he doesn't have to wait so long when he (finally) gets up and makes his coffee.

I might stop doing this though as the other day he moaned that I don't put the lid of the kettle back on properly!

Also - I hate food shopping so he does this - on a Thursday night when he does the supermarket shop I always do the washing up (his job) and empty the bins (also his job) so he doesn't feel too hard done by...

... I don't vacuum until the lazy bugger gets up on Sat/Sun - can be lunchtime...

... and I write him the odd poem!! .... oh and move his car when he forgets to do it so he doesn't get a parking ticket!!!

They are not very romantic but he is more clever than me and earns double so I can't really buy him things etc....

Ok so today I bought him an extension lead for the garden, he's always stressing to find one when he need to strim the lawn.

The romance definitely needs work 😜

Buy him treats in the weekly shop we wouldn’t usually get.
Buy him his magazines when I see it’s been released.
Get DS up and ready on the mornings it would be him if I’m up, so he can sleep in.
Run him a bath off in pottering around upstairs.

Basically anything he likes and is gonna do anyways.... I beat him to it so I look thoughtful 😂

Wrap his Christmas presents for him
Cook his favourite food for the freezer for when I’m working late.
Buy his socks as it’s the sort of minutiae he can’t see the point of, even though it is solely for his benefit
Run him a bath and take him a glass of whisky in it
Order him the next in the series of what he’s reading so he doesn’t have to wait

Send him photos and memes that will make him laugh.

Make his favourite food, or cakes etc on a whim

Tickle his arm while we’re watching TV. He then gives me a foot rub and I give him a back tickle, so it’s very much quid pro quo!

BJs of course. A lot.

I used to make him a little scrapbook with personal things in it about shows we watched, in-jokes, music and food we liked etc. He always seemed to appreciate it when I made him a new page, but I just got out of the habit. Must do some more!!

Always ask if he wants anything when I get up to go to the loo/kitchen etc. He’s recently had his brother staying with him and was horrified to find that this guy never makes him a coffee or tea when he’s making himself one - and then leaves the empty cups everywhere. No wonder his wife is divorcing him!

It’s all about give and take. He’s very thoughtful and does lovely things for me and I try to do the same. He has more money and I have more time/creativity so the things I do for him are more usually cheaper but take time and effort.

Oh and leave him to nap, tucking him up under a blanket, even though it gives me the rage when I’m busy and he’s snoozing