NC for this, as it is outing.
You know how narcissists are Prince Charming 'till they 'have' you, and then they change? Does anyone remember the exact moment they saw the change?
For me it was when I was 6 months pregnant with twins. We had been sitting out in the garden enjoying the sunshine and having cold drinks. All very pleasant. I was cooking pizza and went inside to check on it. As I pulled out the oven rack the pizza slid off the back and fell to the bottom of the oven.
He was behind me and nastily snarled at me: "You always fuck everything up don't you!".
That was the moment he changed and he never changed back to the lovely, kind, generous man I fell in love with. It took another four years of EA, financial and sometimes physical abuse, but I left him, and have never been happier.