You don't have to be in love to have sex...?

[faithfulbird20]

I've just been talking to a couple of mates who all think you have to be in love to have sex. Please tell me they're wrong....I don't agree...

My brother in law once tried to convince me his brother did love me (a rough patch in my marriage) because we had conceived DD4....I just wanted to laugh sooo badly...

What do u think?

I think personally if I stopped loving my dh I couldn't imagine having sex with him again. I could at the start have sex before love, I could have sex in lust but I can't imagine having sex with someone I had fallen out of love or lustre with.

No of course not, on either question.

But some people don't feel able to have sex with people that they are not in love with.

And most people would choose not to have a baby with someone that they don't love. "He must love you - he's having a baby with you" can be true in that sense.

Of course people can have sex without being in love, if your friends only want to have sex with people they’re in love with good for them but it’s incredibly naive of them to think that’s the same for everyone in the world.

I had a relationship once which was friendship rather than a love match. He just didn't have a personality I could fall in love with - I like quite quirky men and he wasn't that. But he was so good in bed, so good....

I’ve had sex with good friends. The trust is there, the respect and the understanding of what is going on is clear and all other aspects of the friendship remained the same. It is possible.

Possibly the best sex is the second time with someone. You have had the intro to each other’s bodies, got over the wobbly bits and the passion is still so high.

I agree with PP that it is not good if you have been in love with someone and fallen out of love though. Whatever being in love really means.

This makes no sense because obviously it's physically possible to have sex at any time. Do you think they mean you have to be in love to want sex (which is also ludicrous)?