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Bedtime for 11yr olds sleepover?

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Mull · 22/05/2021 21:14

DS is Y6 and having his first sleepover! I know that is quite old but he was never very keen and then covid etc etc. So, he has one friend staying here and I have no idea how late they should be up?

DS needs quite a lot of sleep (more than his 8yr old sister) so usually goes to bed at 8.30. Should I be making them go to sleep at a certain time or just leave them to it? They are watching a film in bed at the mo.

DS may be an overtired nightmare tomorrow but I don’t want to stop him having fun now and seem over bearing? Sorry, I’m probably over thinking this!

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SezziBaybee · 22/05/2021 21:17

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Scotlass · 22/05/2021 21:19

I have a just turned 12yr old DS. When he's had a friend stay over (pre covid) it was bed around 10pm, by 11pm it was the 'sleep time' now chat.

GalOopNorth · 22/05/2021 21:23

I would say 9.30 for lights out

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Mybigbed · 22/05/2021 21:23

If it’s just one I’d say settle down and lights out by 10, no more talking after 11.
If there’s a group there’s no chance until at least midnight in my experience.

MajesticWhine · 22/05/2021 21:23

I have an 11yo DD - I would just leave them to it. Perhaps in bed and beginning to wind down at 10. But let them sleep when they are ready.

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Mull · 22/05/2021 21:28

Thanks for the replies!

@SezziBaybee yes I think it feels like a ‘step change’ and I don’t want to get it wrong! You should have seen me last term when he started walking to school by himself Grin

They are in pjs, watching a film in bed. I will leave them until 10 then get them to do teeth and settle down. His friend is very sensible (they both are) so don’t think there’ll be too much midnight shenanigans

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0hforfoxsake · 22/05/2021 21:38

I would leave them to it - making sure that if tonight goes well, other sleep overs will follow. And if they dick about, it’ll be a one off event.

SnarkyBag · 22/05/2021 21:41

Leave them to it. I always considered it a win if they were asleep by midnight. Anything after that and I go in and tell them it’s time to pipe down and go to sleep.

ladygracie · 22/05/2021 22:29

When my children were younger we had a rule that if they had a sleepover they had to go to bed early for the next two nights after. No exceptions. If it was a 2 night sleepover then 4 early nights. Because it was a hard and fast rule they never argued with it. Not sure that helps with your dilemma tonight but may help tomorrow if he is overtired.

Stompythedinosaur · 22/05/2021 22:53

I think 11 is too old for a sleepover bedtime. I'd be encouraging towards bed around 10 and expecting them to be up until midnightish

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