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I won't be brave enough to answer the question ''have you had your vaccination?''

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Gucci1961 · 22/05/2021 08:31

My fb feed is so polarised. I will be keeping it private what I have done I think. If anybody asks me if I have had it, I won't know what to say. Opinions seem so divided. I can't believe Im friends with people who think it's poison, and also, people who think you're so selfish you should go to prison if you pass on it!

Personally I'm on the fence but I'll have it. Reluctantly but I will have it. I cancelled the first appointment because it was at the crack of dawn on a weekend day. I have friends on my fb feed who are posted all sorts of articles insinuating that you're a lunatic to have untested shit put in to you and also that you'll have deaths on your hands if you don't race down to your local vaccination centre.

So, if I'm asked, I'll say, 'weather is improving, 12 degrees, feels like 11!''

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RaiseTheBeastie · 22/05/2021 11:47

I choose not to be friends with arseholes, and I have the sort of friends who wouldn't lie about something like this

You're underestimating peoples natural instinct for self preservation.

The vitriol directed at people not wanting to vaccinate has been huge. There are a few conspiracy theorist crazies who will publicly rant to all and sundry about how awful the vax is. But they are the few. Many with their own concerns about the vaccine would rather not have that vitriol directed at them.

I'm not sure if it's more arrogant or naiive to believe that no one you know would ever lie to you about it tbh.

alaiabadr · 22/05/2021 11:50

@Gucci1961

I'm not looking for an argument. When somebody says ''ALL'' their friends and family have had the vaccine I'm a little sceptical. I'd prefer to be surrounded by people who felt comfortable having different opinions.

My view of myself is that I'm very reasonable, but I know we all think that! This thread shows that no matter how reasonable you feel you are, somebody somewhere is going to think you're pathetic or looking for an argument or need to get a grip!

"I'd prefer to be surrounded by people who felt comfortable having different opinions."

But the whole thread is about how you are scared of being honest with these people you prefer to surround yourself with - doesn't make sense to me.

KaleSlayer · 22/05/2021 12:12

Friends respect each other’s choices so you should be able to tell them without judgement.

I’m not having the vaccine, it’s the right thing for me and my reason is valid. When people ask, I will tell them but if they judge then they’re not someone I need in my life. I don’t use Facebook as I find it all attention seeking though.

BiBabbles · 22/05/2021 12:16

I've avoided talking about it, but the closest people have to discussing it on mine is either people who are very eager to share they've done it with avatar changes and everything or a couple of my spouse's friends who in a group chat discussed their side effects. Like with pp, I'd think it would be rude to ask, especially among my friends with a lot of medical issues so likely have been given different advice on it.

I can see if yours is more volatile and likely to ask directly that it might be better to just avoid. I have a couple people in my family like that, but I'm not friends with them so rarely see their posts.

I delayed - I was more influenced by concerns of lack, not wanting to get one while others who are at higher risk are still desperate rather than the berating I'm going to kill someone when I barely leave the house. Other people going on about getting it didn't really sway me, it was my spouse getting his organized (GP didn't have his mobile and so apparently they just weren't contacting him since they couldn't get it by text until he called to ask about it), I figured it would be better to go with him in case either of us has an issue. I went earliest slots on a Sunday right after my spouse got off of work, only had to queue about 5 minutes.

qualitygirl Agree on hating that argument. Once had a nurse, who should know better, openly admit she hadn't thought my spouse should get painkillers because she'd thought he was hurt in a motorcycle accident from his looks, but since it had been a home accident of falling down the stairs which wrecked his knee, then it was fine, even more so as he was carrying things for his mum when it happened. It was upsetting to think my spouse or anyone could be denied appropriate care for that.

MrsLCSofLichfield · 22/05/2021 12:16

I'm having my second dose next week, can't bloody wait. I've already tried COVID-19, thanks. If someone has a medical reason not to have it, that's their business. I wouldn't choose to hang out with freeloaders who are happy to rely on everyone else to keep them safe, though.

Pagwatch · 22/05/2021 12:24

This threads is way more interesting in what it says about facebook than vaccinations to me.
I can't get my head around being facebook friends with someone who would demand my vaccination status and then lecture me about the answer.

Sirzy · 22/05/2021 12:26

I'm not looking for an argument. When somebody says ''ALL'' their friends and family have had the vaccine I'm a little sceptical. I'd prefer to be surrounded by people who felt comfortable having different opinions.*

As over 90% of over 40s have been vaccinated then it’s not really that surprising that people have all or the vast majority of their friendship group vaccinated or planning on.

CausingChaos2 · 22/05/2021 12:33

Not having this vaccine doesn’t mean people are antivaxxers. I won’t be having this vaccine any time soon (if ever) but had a repeat MMR a few months ago.

I haven’t decided what to tell people yet. I’m tempted to be honest as I’m a robust person and won’t allow people to shame me for it. If I find myself getting lots of grief, will just lie instead.

murbblurb · 22/05/2021 12:36

Everybody on my FB Friends list has been delighted to have the vaccine. Wide spread of ages, backgrounds and geography.

I know two refusers in real life. I just keep 2 m away if we are chatting - but am doing that with everyone so doesn't make much difference.

KaleSlayer · 22/05/2021 12:40

Everybody on my FB Friends list has been delighted to have the vaccine. Wide spread of ages, backgrounds and geography.

But they might be lying so they don’t get judged. 🤷🏻‍♀️

RampantIvy · 22/05/2021 12:42

DH and I are in our 60s. Our friends and family are in their 50s and 60s. They all wanted to be vaccinated, and have been. Some are clinically vulnerable. Two of them have cancer.

Yes, they have been vaccinated, and no, they wouldn't lie about it, and if they hadn't been or weren't going to they would feel comfortable saying so.

RampantIvy · 22/05/2021 12:44

I should have added, the ones who were eligible for vaccination. Obviously the younger members of the family haven't, and when it is DD's turn we will consult an HCP as she has some auto immune issues.

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Gucci1961 · 22/05/2021 12:44

@alaiabadr I think the point is that it doesn't always work both ways. I don't mind what people do, or don't do. I'm comfortable with that. But it doesn't mean that people who sit on the fence will be extended the same courtesy does it?

Really scary that there are people out there who would want to deny painkillers to somebody who was hurt in a motorbike accident Confused The need to blame or not blame. You deserve your pain. You do not deserve your pain. Wow.

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PattyPan · 22/05/2021 12:46

I'd prefer to be surrounded by people who felt comfortable having different opinions

There’s having different opinions and then there’s just being wrong though. I wouldn’t want flat Earthers on my friends list either.

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Gucci1961 · 22/05/2021 12:46

@alaibadr also, as is often the case on mumsnet, you create a thread and it's assumed that you're agonising over the issue! That it's causing you distress. It might just be an observation and a light hearted one at that.

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Gucci1961 · 22/05/2021 12:48

@pattypan, i used to work with a man who was a flat earther. He was good humoured and fair and helpful to his colleagues and to our clients. So weird. I don't know how he believes that stuff when people have sailed around the world and filmed it from all angles, but if you could keep him off the subject, he was a good colleague.

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MissTrip82 · 22/05/2021 12:51

I’m afraid I’m surrounded by the sort of people who simply must be uncomfortable having different opinions as my FB is full of vaccinated people.

It’s also full of health care professionals who work in ICU.

Those sheeple.

😂😂😂😂

Saff2015 · 22/05/2021 13:02

To be honest I don’t anyone who has turned down the vaccine. I work in a hospital and most of my friends and family are nhs workers as well so we all received ours back in January. I currently actually don’t know any close friends or family members who haven’t had it. I didn’t really see it as an option or a decision to be agonised over; I get my flu vaccine every year by the hospital and this was just another vaccine. They emailed us times and we showed up and then went back to work. I never really gave it another thought to be honest

qualitygirl · 22/05/2021 13:05

@Saff2015 I know Plenty of ppl in the medical fields (doctors, nurses and physios) who have opted not to get the vaccine yet. I work in pharmaceuticals and again there's plenty of us who are waiting it out a bit longer. 🤷‍♀️

Polkadots2021 · 22/05/2021 13:06

Time to leave Facebook I'd say.

Parker231 · 22/05/2021 13:24

quality - DH is a doctor - he and his colleagues have all had the vaccine to protect themselves and importantly to protect the patients they are treating.

qualitygirl · 22/05/2021 13:47

@Parker231 that's great and his decision of course as it is others decision to not get it right now.

Parker231 · 22/05/2021 13:51

Quality - My friend is receiving cancer treatment and as advised by her consultant won’t be able to have the vaccine. If the medical staff treating her aren’t vaccinated, they are putting her at an additional risk.

Foxyloxy1plus1 · 22/05/2021 13:58

People will and should, make their own decision about whether to have the vaccine or not.

Equally people will make their own decisions about whether to associate with those who have not had the vaccine. If you aren’t truthful, you might be misleading someone who needs to make sure that those with whom they associate, have been vaccinated.

I don’t personally want to be around unvaccinated people. That’s my decision and my choice, which you remove if you lie about that status.

Partypoooooper · 22/05/2021 14:04

I've had my first, I have no desire to share it on social media Hmm