How hard do you find everyday life?

[Sleepplease1111]

On a scale of 1 - 10 1 being everyday day is a joy and little bothers you to 10 crippling anxiety that effects your day to day living?

I ask because I frequently get told I overreact and I find things stressful.

I would say I’m about a 7 with about 30% of the population worse than me.

Probably similar to you % wise but I think I hide it well. There are lots of things I want to do to improve it but it's not always possible.

I was redundant from Sept to end of March. I had some savings but I'm single with a mortgage so it wasn't great. During that time I guess I was a 6 or 7.

I started a new role in April, all going well and now a 9.

Once I get more fluent with my new job, and the weather warms up (always helps) I'll be a 10.

Sorry, Other way round. Was a 3-4, currently a 2. Hopefully soon a 1

I’m confused, 1 is life is good and 10 is not good?
I would say 1 most days, 2 some days.

3/4, but do has been making life pretty difficult at the moment, and the kids are more defiant than I've ever know then, but generally I can shake it off quite easily.

I would say about a 4, generally positive and easy going, This is massively helped because I have things like a nice job, nice house, reasonably easy going DC, a helpful DH, nice friends etc. Otherwise things would be much more difficult.

@Checkingout811 yes 1 you find life easy 10 you really struggle.

Just for clarity I don’t think I have a bad life but there is a lot about it I find stressful.

A 2 or a 3. Not because life is easy because it isn't, DP has terminal cancer. But because he is life limited it has taught me to take joy from the small things and to try not to worry too much about the things I have no control over.

Op, what sort of things make you stressed?

Job pressure or finances or difficult family? Is there a constant theme that is pulling you down? Being stressed is exhausting which makes it so hard to climb out of.

Is there one thing that always always cheers you up?

About 7, like you I get by get through the days but little joy although I know I am way better off than many I just can't feel it. Have be on ad for years and not quite the gaping blackness I had once - just no spark.

About a 8 or 9, just coping. Some days I can't go out of the house. Some days I just want to stay in bed. I judge it as a win if I can either go to work (work part-time) or get my dog for a walk.

It's difficult to quantify. Crippling anxiety does affect my day to day living in a debilitating way and has done for years in that I'll never form a relationship or have children or even make a friend and I'm stuck in a boring dead end job. But at the same time I'm not miserable all the time and can enjoy spending time with my parents or my sister. I can relate to finding things difficult and stressful that other people find easy or have no problem with.

About a decade ago when my (undiagnosed) anxiety was at its peak, a 9-10 on a daily basis- I'm talking hiding under a table crying, 2am calls to work in a panic to check id not missed something, thinking it might be an OK thing to get into a moderate accident on the way somewhere for a bit of a break in hospital...

Then I started counselling and medication and probably got to a 6.

Then I had ds which could have gone either way but seems to have grounded me a bit and probably a 3 on non work days, 4-6 on work days? Occasionally old habits slip in and I might have a few hours of 7.

Anxiety is bloody debilitating

Everyday for me is 10. Has been for 4 years.

About a 5, on the surface of it I have a home job and car. I have friends and family close by and enough money to be pay my bills. But I feel lonely and sad most of the time. I think I always have.

2/3. I became a single mum early this year and I’d say that everyday was like a 10. But now we’re more settled I’m slowly starting to enjoy every day.

I'd say a 2-3.

My son is autistic which brings worries for the future and I need to be very mindful of what we do and how I support him.

I've also had a horrible health condition for 3 years but it's finally eased.

It's really made me change my mindset to not sweat the small stuff and save my energy for big challenges.

10 all day, everyday with no end in sight. I am confined to the house with severe depression and crippling anxiety. I can barely move.

My life is a misery that I only endure because I am a single parent. Otherwise I would be long gone.

I am so desperately unhappy stuck between crippling anxiety that pushes intolerable intrusive thoughts and hideous fatigue.

Probably 4-5. Generally I enjoy life and enjoy my job but that is because I've organised my life so it is incredibly stress free. If I had the average person's daily stresses it would be much higher. My score would be lower if I didn't fret so often about DC.

@Cowbells tell me the secrets of organising a stress free life?

I’ve always got 101 things to do and feel like I’m failing in all parts of my life, I seam to frustrate and annoy people easily 3 of my family members have been annoyed with me in the last 2 hours.

Probably 1 or 2
Everything is pretty much on cue so im happy

I’m a 1 but this is because I only work a few hours a week from home (started that pre covid). My DC are adults. I have no one else I need to care for or consider. Lockdown has meant that really the only thing on my “to do” list is book a shopping delivery once a fortnight.

When I was trying to cope with a full time office job, social commitments and more life admin I was about an 8!

Between 8 and 10. Mostly 10 at the moment :(

[quote Sleepplease1111]@Cowbells tell me the secrets of organising a stress free life?

I’ve always got 101 things to do and feel like I’m failing in all parts of my life, I seam to frustrate and annoy people easily 3 of my family members have been annoyed with me in the last 2 hours.[/quote]
I work for myself - that's the main one. It's not possible for everyone but for people who are burnt out, I do think if you can find a way to work for yourself (not stupid MLM but real work) it helps a lot. I organise my own working hours, set to my own rhythm. I up my hours if I am feeling good and reduce them if I get too stressed. I take a lot of time off. More than I should but it keeps me relaxed. I also have plenty of time to exercise as that helps. I hunted around for a very good, cheap exercise class and do it most days.

DC are grown now (which weirdly carries its own massive stresses) but when they were little I meal planned and rotated about 20 different easy recipes so I never had to think much about food. When they all got bored of them, I let DH take over some of the cooking.

I'm quite relaxed about housework, but have short daily routines that keep on top of it - 15 mins three times a day - kitchen and bathroom plus one other room and laundry. What doesn't get done in 15 mins doesn't get done. Unless we have guests or it's Christmas.

I let all stressful friendships die a natural death. I stopped charging around doing 101 things for local charities and now do nothing for charity. I used to work myself to the bone unpaid and unappreciated. I reduced the amount of time spent with difficult relatives and started seeing them only on my own terms. If they start to bully me I just wander out of the room and go for a walk and come back 30 mins later.

I never row - not with DH, not with DC. I pick my battles incredibly carefully. About one row every 5 years. Even in lockdown - no raised voices.

I plan things very very carefully. No winging things. I used to wing it and get so stressed. Now if we go on holiday or I have a work presentation it's all thoroughly organised.

I do a lot of things to stay upbeat - watch comedies, listen to a lot of good music, feed the local wildlife and watch them etc.

So I did consciously decide: enough stress! and make changes. Only a couple of things stress me these days - one I can do nothing about (DS's SEN) and the other is my sole responsibility. So that's manageable.