Anyone else seem to constantly need change in their life?

[Allhallowseve]

Hi all just wondered if it's just me . I have recently noticed that if I have nothing going on in my life I feel the need to "change " something . I am left wondering ....Is this just a dodgy personality , the result of a bit of a chaotic childhood or just coincidence.
I don't seem to stay in a job more than three years always striving for the next thing . I have three children which creates some sort of chaos however when not pregnant or thinking about having another baby , I'm either looking for a new job or contemplating moving house . Is it just me or does anyone else do this ?

user nope.

I feel like for years it’s been about what’s next - getting engaged, getting a promotion, having a baby, getting married, getting another promotion, buying a house amd having another baby. Now I’m not having any more DC and we’re happy in our house yet I’m still wondering what is next. I’m trying really hard to enjoy the present and be content with that

Just to add I had a very stable childhood.

In my 20s I had about a dozen jobs and 8 house moves around the country. I did marry young, though, and DH came along with me! Now at 45 I'm vv settled - been in my job for 14.5 years and my house for 10.5 years. Having DS did change me, but I think I was just ready to embrace stability. My neighbours are always having something done to their house, and I get tired just thinking about they upheaval. It's nice to do new things and get projects done now and then, but the constant need to be busy and/or changing things just baffles me these days!

Most of my need to have a project is channelled into organising holidays, birthdays, activities and home improvement. My latest itch is minimalism and DH keeps telling me to sit down and relax.

I had a very stable childhood but a very busy mum. Interestingly we see strong traits of both of us in my DS1 who is diagnosed with ADHD

I need external things and some kind of project on. Decorating. A race to train for. A holiday to look forwards to. I used to love supply teaching and the variation of that. It was often long term supply but it was good to have the freshness of moving on. I liked the breadth of knowing so many schools.

Life is stable, only one thing changes at a time.

The past 14m have been like existing in a suffocating fog. I have a child with additional needs so can't just swan off and sign up with an agency to get out of the house again. During lockdown I have no sense of time and feel utterly lost.

The thought of having a life where any given day would be like its counterpart in 5 years, 10 years, eating the same dinners, the same holidays, the same cast of people in your life is mind numbing to me. I know it works for some people, but I need something fresh and to keep moving forwards in some way.

@Carbara

Why so defensive? 😂

Defensive? I was just replying to your post, which expressed incomprehension and and contained a question:

I cannot understand how anyone yearns for upheaval and change, do yous not just want to sit down and enjoy your lives?