Please help me set house rules now left school/finished GCSEs

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DS leaves school at the end of this week having completed "GCSEs".
As he has ASD I have controlled his usage of electronics and he has had to charge them downstairs overnight so he goes to sleep as he absolutely has no self control. I promised after GCSEs he will have phone etc in his room at night if he chooses and he will have to try to learn to self regulate usage.

I want to use this as a time to set some new ground rules as he will be off school from now until college in September so will have loads of time. What would be reasonable to ask him to do. Mainly to improve his life skills as none come naturally to him despite an exceptional IQ. My ideas included - Washing own clothes, strip bed and wash and remake fortnightly, small food shop and cook once a week.
Currently he just does either laying table, load or unload dishwasher, vac on a 4 day rota with siblings.

I plan that all "pocket" money should stop until he starts college as he has plenty of time to do some paid work even if it is just chores for relatives. However money does not motivate him and he doesnt spend it on clothes or going out so that is not likely to work unless he decides he wants a new phone or gadget which has not happened for 3 years. He doesnt have phone contract or any other things we fund.

All suggestions welcome.

Got to be honest, when mine get to that point (next year) I'm not going to expect them to do much at all

This year's Yr11s have over 3 months off.

I think it's a sensible plan other than stopping the pocket money particularly as he's not on an even footing about finding a job compared to his peers.

Some people do need to be taught rather than relying on picking up skills by osmosis. We understand that with some skills such as driving and don't expect people to be competent at driving following years in the passenger seat.

DS1 is 10 and has ASD and dyspraxia and it does take far longer, and more structure to train him up to find chores acceptable to him. He also has less inititative about seeing what needs doing.

Not sure why that's "cringe".

I imagine they just find it a bit embarrassing that some 19 year olds have no idea what to do with a washing machine when, as you say, it’s literally just pressing a button!

I plan that all "pocket" money should stop until he starts college as he has plenty of time to do some paid work even if it is just chores for relatives. However money does not motivate him and he doesnt spend it on clothes or going out so that is not likely to work unless he decides he wants a new phone or gadget which has not happened for 3 years. He doesnt have phone contract or any other things we fund.

Are you receiving child allowance for him?