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I'm everyone's agony aunt and I can't cope anymore

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BobbleToggle · 18/05/2021 17:46

As the title. (Name changed for obvious reasons). Ironically I have very few friends, but a lot of people who come to me when they have a problemnor need a shoulder to cry on. These are not people who I socialise with but people I've got to know on the school run, old school friends and most of all family. My Mum messages me throughout the day to talk about her DM (my Grandmother) who is in a care home. It's very stressful and I try and give support and so on. She'll then video call me in the evening to say how stressed she is and she doesn't hold back on the drama. My best (only) friend is currently having chemo (Although coming to the end of it now and things are looking more hopeful) so I can't offload on her (again she leaves me around four or five voice notes a day about her stuff). There are other people but I'm not sure it's useful to list them all here??
I'm so utterly tired. I'm extremely and painfully lonely as my marriage is pretty much for appearance only and we never talk (there are issues). For various reasons I haven't ever really 'lived' (so it's always a bit odd that people seem to want my opinion, given that I haven't had much experience of anything at all). My children are pretty amazing although my eldest is becoming like his father which is proving tricky.
Where does an agony aunt go in her time of need? Anyone have any advice?

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zelda5478573489 · 02/06/2021 21:09

Bobble I'm so utterly tired. I'm extremely and painfully lonely as my marriage is pretty much for appearance only and we never talk (there are issues).

This for me too I'm sorry to say. It is easy for me to slip into the agony aunt role too.

I have one friend who is supportive but when she first got to know me she as good as admitted she wanted to see me for her counselling session - i.e. a listening ear. Unfortunately, she soon discovered, I had a shed load of issues and the listening was going to have to be reciprocal. I have another friend I see every now and again who just talks at me...I come away from her feeling exhausted. I have a non-existent relationship with my mother (she was neglectful and my father abusive). I wonder how I have ended up with a kind of relationship shit show and hence, yes feel essentially lonely. I have a teen dc who uses me as a verbal punch bag and two other dc who obviously want and deserve my time and attention (I know how important this is not having had it as a child). The only bit of good news on the horizon is that I am hoping to enter therapy soon.

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