Toddler discipline

[Exhaustedmummy1001]

Really don't know what I'm hoping for in this post but I have a 2 year old who has started the bossy tantrum stage and I'm struggling with discipline techniques with him I've tried just talking him out of things (distraction) the thinking space which he screams on and doesn't stay on and quite frankly exhausts me then leaving the room for a few minutes but this seems pointless as he just does what he was doing a few moments after me coming back into the room, he hits me if he doesn't get him own way, if anyone has any suggestions please send them thank you

There were two books I found helpful Divas and Dictators by Charlie Taylor and Little Angels by Dr Tanya Byron.
It's a while since mine were that age, but I definitely found it helped to look for when they were doing the right thing and praise them to encourage a repeat. I remember when dd went through a hitting stage and wouldn't stop and I put her in a travel cot for a minute if she did it which did stop it. I didn't do that much it was just for the particular hitting stage. I did find the books helpful though

In conjunction with giving attention for good behaviour, ignoring (taking away attention) for bad behaviour worked too. Obviously not if they are doing something anti social though!

I likes Toddler Calm by Sarah Ockwell-Smith. But it depends what sort of parent you are I think. I tend towards a more gentle/ positive parenting approach personally (totally not what I expected when I had kids!) and appreciate it doesn't suit everyone.