All I want to do is live somewhere where I don’t dread warm sunny weather due to loud music :-(

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I don’t want a big house, nor do I want riches. I just want to be able to sit in the garden and listen to the birds and the sounds of nature.

I moved house last year during a gap in lockdown and here we are again.

There's simply nothing worse OP and I feel your pain. I don't think there's an answer as long as you have to live near other people

Thank you. I’ve been looking at areas away from people, but it’s not feasible while the children are at school. The neighbours are having great big party outdoors. Can’t really complain under the circumstances, but why does a great big party HAVE to be accompanied by thumping music? Every time it’s sunny, we have something in some form, but today it’s ramped up 😭😭😭😭

We lived in a little estate a few years ago and had to put up with cars revving and people playing music at times.

Moved to the country. A house next door, a house across the road a little. Neighbours drive a car around their field and rev the engine. Play all sorts of crap music late into the night. If I reported them it'd be pretty obvious who did it and I just know they'd wreak their revenge somehow.

It is utterly miserable and people are so selfish. No one wants to listen to other peoples music.

After my awful experience what I would do is go around and tell them to turn it off or down now. If you let it go it will get worse. In our area the council does nothing.

My experience was so bad I'm still not well and the hint of music or loud voices sets my anxiety off.

I don't buy the excuse that you have to put up with it because you live close to people. Most of us do and always have. You need to be more considerate not less when you live close to others.

Those that say for you to be tolerant have never lived next door to a family playing loud music for up to 10 hours a day every day and a cokehead screaming twice a week during the night ...

I'm only looking at detached bungalows surrounded by older people now.

I would find that intolerable. There's not much good about being hard of hearing but not hearing noise from neighbours is just worth it.

How self obsessed do you have to be to force your music on others? Councils should have stronger powers.

How about you playing loud tv at a really unsociable time for a while - wake them up, or heavy hoovering sessions bashing skirting boards vigorously?. Hopefully they will come and ask you to keep the noise down and you can say likewise.

I know the last para isn't very realistic but I would be tempted.

Honestly I think it’s the price we pay for having such a short summer/few warm days. People go crazy while they can, knowing they will be stuck indoors for the other 364 days per year.

@Toilenstripes

Honestly I think it’s the price we pay for having such a short summer/few warm days. People go crazy while they can, knowing they will be stuck indoors for the other 364 days per year.

Absolutely agree. We all need to live and let live. If you hate noise that much move tp a detached property somewhere with an older population or country.

Not well because of people playing music, user?

*countryside

I totally understand how this would bother you. People can be so selfish! Our neighbours have just started building work but didn’t bother to let us know, just started drilling and hammering. If that was me I’d have just given a quick knock to give them a heads up. I was brought up to care about my neighbours and be thoughtful. Seems not to be the case today - more just do as they please!

Ohhhhhhh I feel your pain. Our neighbours from April until Sept spend all weekend having BBQs and playing loud music. And they position themselves right by our fence so they might as well be in our garden. We spend most of the summer with our kitchen doors shut due to the noise and smell of petrol from their BBQ. Makes my life misery.

I could never understand when I was young why "old" people were obsessed with hearing "noise" (cars, music etc) from their homes. Now I am old I totally get it!!

It is not just playing music! It was loud, soul shaking, heavy base music that filled my entire house for up to 10 hours a day every single day! I work from home, we were in the first lockdown and I'm a key worker. I couldnt hear the TV or even think straight. Like I said before you think I'm exaggerating you need to try having that feet away from your bedroom for 8 long months. Every single day and night ...

That does sound truly awful user. I suppose I'm thinking of normal, neighbourhood noise where we all need to give and take. My neighbour started their extension the first day I was in bed with covid last September. It wasn't their fault. But then I have thoughtful neighbours and vice versa.