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That’s it - I am moving to the middle of nowhere

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Notcontent · 15/05/2021 19:47

Ok, maybe not completely middle of nowhere but more rural.

I have always lived in cities - currently in London - but I have had enough. Not the city itself but being in such close proximity to other people. Having to listen to other people’s loud music etc. Anyone else feel that way?

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Twospaniels · 15/05/2021 20:20

We live rurally. Been here 16 yrs. 10 houses in the hamlet, tiny village 1 mile away, no facilities. Market Town 8 miles away, large city 25 miles away.

Absolutely love it and would never move back to suburbia.

Will prob move in 5 yrs time (retirement) but to a medium village hopefully with a small corner shop and maybe a doctors.

Do it!

lljkk · 15/05/2021 20:25

lol I live on edge of country, in a sleepy region where "everybody knows everybody"
I want to move to city to have city buzz & anonymity

SamMil · 15/05/2021 20:28

Our nearest neighbour is half a mile away and we love it. Recently had to rent while we had some work done on the house and I couldn't wait to come back!

lovelyupnorth · 15/05/2021 20:35

Love it, only ruined by Londoners moving

Shopaholic100 · 15/05/2021 20:47

Perfect sounds like bliss. After over a year living with a serial builderholic (there is no other word to describe her!) it sounds exactly what I need. Inconsiderate neighbours make your life hell because you just can’t escape them😩.

blueangel19 · 15/05/2021 20:51

I have felt like you. So tired of the city and the crowds. However, I have friends who lives in a lovely house with a mature garden in the St Quintin’s conservation area in North Kensington. Zone 2 yet feels like not in London. Very quiet and beautiful. I was looking into to moving to that area but now we are leaving the U.K. for good hopefully this summer.

PennyinmyPocket · 15/05/2021 20:53

I have just arrived home from a 2 week holiday in mid Wales. I am seriously trying to find ways to leave my very grumpy, controlling DH. I stayed in a very well equipped, beautiful, isolated cottage within 20 acres of silence! Everything is within30 mins by car, through narrow lanes with very limited traffic - woodland walks, beaches, supermarkets, farm shops, village life.... Yet the people I have met are so friendly. I didn’t want to come home. It was a truly life enhancing experience. I have a few real life “friends” that I find, sometimes, excruciating to meet up with and keep in touch with, but I now realise I am happy with my own company, with an occasional conversation with others when I feel the need. My dog doesn’t care what shit I spout! 😂

I have missed my GC but if I moved here - and I am seriously considering it - my GC can always visit for school holidays. They would love it. I have no doubt. This move is seriously on the cards.

Merchymor · 15/05/2021 20:54

My neighbours had some sort of power tool going all morning and I couldn't get out as it was raining.

But I think I'd get bored somewhere rural. I also use public transport and walk places as much as possible so would miss the good rail links we have.

PainterInPeril · 15/05/2021 20:57

Have you thought of moving to Australia? I mean, you don't mind mice, do you?! They wouldn't be playing music! Grin

osbertthesyrianhamster · 15/05/2021 20:57

Me. I am fucking SICK to the back teeth of other peoples' fucking music. I honestly think it should be a criminal offence to blast music. NO ONE wants to listen to your fucking music. People who do this are cunts.

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Notcontent · 15/05/2021 21:04

@PainterInPeril

Have you thought of moving to Australia? I mean, you don't mind mice, do you?! They wouldn't be playing music! Grin
I actually have family there, so yes!!!

I love the convenience of being in the city and if money was no object I would probably buy a detached house in a lovely are. I actually live in a rather nice part of London but I am surrounded by neighbours and as I get older (late 40s) I am just becoming really grumpy and intolerant !!

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Whoateallthechocolate · 15/05/2021 21:07

Hmmm ... my parents live in a hamlet with 12 other houses in the middle of nowhere. Each house has at least an acre, if not two. They are coming to stay next week (woohooo - haven't seen them for 8 months) and keep talking about how much they are looking forward to the peace & quiet where we live. We live in suburbia. Detached houses rather than a terrace but the alley ways between the houses seem to be designed to take a wheelie bin and nothing wider. But no one here in suburbia is constantly mowing, brush cutting, chain sawing, angle grinding, having a bonfire and not is there a local farmer who is very diligent in his muck spreading. And not do we get owls hooting ridiculously loudly all night every night. And we don't have birds nesting in the gutter immediately outside the bedroom window.
I do also appreciate that most of our neighbours are really nice and considerate and that if any of them move, I might be writing a very different post!

itsgettingwierd · 15/05/2021 21:07

@PennyinmyPocket

I have just arrived home from a 2 week holiday in mid Wales. I am seriously trying to find ways to leave my very grumpy, controlling DH. I stayed in a very well equipped, beautiful, isolated cottage within 20 acres of silence! Everything is within30 mins by car, through narrow lanes with very limited traffic - woodland walks, beaches, supermarkets, farm shops, village life.... Yet the people I have met are so friendly. I didn’t want to come home. It was a truly life enhancing experience. I have a few real life “friends” that I find, sometimes, excruciating to meet up with and keep in touch with, but I now realise I am happy with my own company, with an occasional conversation with others when I feel the need. My dog doesn’t care what shit I spout! 😂

I have missed my GC but if I moved here - and I am seriously considering it - my GC can always visit for school holidays. They would love it. I have no doubt. This move is seriously on the cards.

I wish you all the luck. You deserve a future enjoying you and the GC without a controlling DH to manage as well.
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Notcontent · 15/05/2021 21:07

I agree! But others will tell you that you just need some ear plugs.... Hmm

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Merchymor · 15/05/2021 21:12

@Whoateallthechocolate

Hmmm ... my parents live in a hamlet with 12 other houses in the middle of nowhere. Each house has at least an acre, if not two. They are coming to stay next week (woohooo - haven't seen them for 8 months) and keep talking about how much they are looking forward to the peace & quiet where we live. We live in suburbia. Detached houses rather than a terrace but the alley ways between the houses seem to be designed to take a wheelie bin and nothing wider. But no one here in suburbia is constantly mowing, brush cutting, chain sawing, angle grinding, having a bonfire and not is there a local farmer who is very diligent in his muck spreading. And not do we get owls hooting ridiculously loudly all night every night. And we don't have birds nesting in the gutter immediately outside the bedroom window. I do also appreciate that most of our neighbours are really nice and considerate and that if any of them move, I might be writing a very different post!
Oh god, we have all those things (except maybe the owls). And we're squished in on a housing estate so it's magnified.

Our neighbours are nice but they don't fing stop doing stuff on their houses and gardens.

We also have hot tub people, garden music people, early Sunday morning mowers.

And we sometimes get the muck spreading smell from nearby fields.

I think I've got more intolerant with peri menopause, at certain times.of the month everything grates on me!

osbertthesyrianhamster · 15/05/2021 21:17

@Notcontent

I agree! But others will tell you that you just need some ear plugs.... Hmm
So then you feel thudding bass. I fucking hate inconsiderate people.
Pinkpaisley · 15/05/2021 21:21

I served my time in urban h*ll. It seemed shiny and exciting at first, but it’s just not worth it. Too many people, too much noise, too little space. I just don’t think humans are meant to live like that.

Gilead · 15/05/2021 21:29

@PennyinmyPocket do it! Controlling DH was arrested a few years ago. I moved 250 miles away. I love it. I speak to all my adult children daily but other than that it’s my choice. I live near a very small town on the edge of the wilds and at 62, I’m happy.

PennyinmyPocket · 15/05/2021 21:46

Thank you @Gilead. That’s encouraging! Can I ask how you managed to finance your home please?

I own half my house but it won’t be enough to buy a property (even if DH sells our house soon and hands over my half). He is going to drag this out as long as he can

partyatthepalace · 15/05/2021 21:56

Just rent first.

It’s a big change and you need to find the right place for you

Gilead · 15/05/2021 22:43

@PennyinmyPocket, I was fortunate enough to have enough left to purchase where I am. Had I stayed where I was I wouldn’t have been able to manage a small flat.
It’s worth looking about. I looked at a few areas. If I had enough money to move back, I wouldn’t. I’ve made friends and feel safe.

tinselvestsparklepants · 15/05/2021 23:24

Moved from a very rural hamlet into a village. It's so much quieter!

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