Do you think your partner is the perfect dad/mum?

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Just been thinking about this in general. DH is a good dad, and a great husband. But I'm not sure I'd say he was the best dad in the world. There are elements of his parenting I really dislike (he is not very patient on occasion). I'd say he's a great dad to our one year old, not so much with our three year old. But maybe people are better parents to different ages? I think he'll be great when they are a bit older.

Whenever I talk to my mum, she thinks my dad was the perfect parent and would never have thought twice about leaving us wi him. In fact he was a stay at home dad.

What do others think?

No, but nor am I the perfect mum! I don’t think twice about leaving the children with him - he’s entirely capable. Neither of us has had any professional training in childcare, which I would think is the case for almost all parents worldwide - and people seem to survive.

Nobody is the perfect parent. This trend for describing men as "amazing" dads because they change the odd nappy or "great" husbands because they cook or remember their wife's birthday is bollocks too.

Less of the "perfect", "great" and"amazing"- its never true of anyone, man or woman.

DH is the only man I'd want to be my kids' dad, and our skill sets complement each other - we're good at different things. We're both present and available to our children and have broadly similar approaches and values about what we're doing and aiming to achieve as parents.

Neither of us is "perfect" or "great" or "amazing". Your mother just enjoys hyperbole or is deeply deluded (hopefully the first of those!)

@UntilYourNextHairBrainedScheme spot on! I really enjoyed reading that thank you! Yes I think that is the same with myself and DH. I am certainly not the perfect mum! We do compliment each other's parenting styles and try our best.
To clarify I have zero issues leaving the kids with DH. He does childcare the days I work and that's for 12 hour shifts so he does it all on those days. He also does all the things that I'd see as normal in a relationship that you've mentioned above, cooking, cleaning etc. I agree these should not be "amazing" attributes just normal behaviour.
I think my mum maybe a little of both 🤣 my dad is a good dad but by NO means was he perfect.

No my husband isnt the perfect dad. Hes a good dad, imo no one is perfect. My husband does say he thinks hes doing well as hes part of the first generation that really got involved in childcare (I know that's not entirely true but is of the people we know)

Hes a farmer and works incredibly hard, sometimes he cant be bothered with the kids when he gets in but he does try his best not to show it. Mil thinks I should be more grateful as dh does a lot more then FIL did which wind me up no end

He is a great dad. He isn't perfect because nobody is, but I'm glad my dc has him for a father.