If you had/or are having a mid life crisis, what does it look like?

[ItscoldinAlaska]

Mine is incredibly boring. I am basically constantly dreaming about having an affair with x, y, z men, some I know in RL, some are in bands I like, some are ex's, some younger than my 41 years. And everyday I get really pissed off at the smallest shit in the world. Like people having the temerity to send me emails at work! Like DP not putting out the cutlery when I'm making dinner, or DS1 leaving his A Level work lying around, or DS2 chewing his food or DD going outside in her socks. I also have absolute rage that my new jeans are a size 14, due to endo belly.

I wouldn't have an affair, I love DP, he is great and I wouldn't do that to him or myself, and have never come close to cheating. But my subconscious is clearly sick of the grind and trying a bit of escapism. We are moving house soon so I'm hoping I can throw myself into sorting it out. I'm doing one year no beer so I can't even have a drink to get me through. I feel so flat, grumpy, listless and boring. Anyone else having a MLC that is more spectacular and interesting than mine? Even my MLC is mundane

I bought since roller blades so that I could whizz along cycle paths living my best life.

They arrived last Thursday, I broke my wrist on them on Friday, had surgery to put a plate in on Monday and am looking at 6 months recuperation!

If anything makes you appreciate your life its suddenly not being able to do any of it, so here's hoping the move shakes things up enough for you!! Most of my fantasies now involve scratching inside my cast and seeing a doctor that's old enough to even understand my Dougie Howser references!!!

That's the best first response to an OP I've seen in ages . Hope you both feel better soon in your own ways x

I'm going to buy a motorbike!

I don’t necessarily think it’s a mid-life crisis, but a break from the world we live in at the moment. We’ve all been’ out-hold’ for the last 12-18 months, and crave some excitement or change to our routine. Even the weather is miserable at the moment. Where’s the sunshine?!

What do you think, in your heart of hearts, that you are really unhappy about? These things you mention are annoyances for sure, but if you were overall happy they wouldn't bother you as much.

Even my MLC is mundane

This properly made me laugh

Like you, I’m more dreams than action. A one way, Thelma & Louise syle roadtrip intil my (imaginary) money runs out.

Sadly irl the kids still need feeding, but one day I will buy a little house and a cat and live my best life away from the drudge.

DysmalRadius
*I bought since roller blades so that I could whizz along cycle paths living my best life.

They arrived last Thursday, I broke my wrist on them on Friday, had surgery to put a plate in on Monday and am looking at 6 months recuperation!*

I'm truly, genuinely sorry that this has happened to you but you truly, genuinely made me laugh, "living my best life".
For that I thank you, heartily, and wish you a swift recovery.

@DysmalRadius oh thank you! That really cheered me up. Instead of a sports car, you bought rollerskates I hope you recover quickly, get a pencil down that cast!

I don't even feel unhappy really. I am massively lucky, I had a sexual trauma at the age 11, that ruptured my world, and had PTSD/eating disorders/suicide attempts/poverty/clinical depression/lone parenting and then DV to contend with in my late teens/20's. So I think my brain is wondering why the hell it's not in crisis mode anymore.

I am bored. But I should love that boredom. I am financially secure, relationship secure, parenting secure and emotionally secure for the first time ever. And now I'm fantasising about, what, stupid inappropriate men and running off to Ibiza?
What.the.actual.fuck!