DD aged 6; year 2 has open access to the toilets at school as she has a joint condition that can mask the feeling of her needing to go to the toilet. She often doesn’t tell anyone until the very last moment – even when she’s with me, if we go to the supermarket or on a day out I always make sure I know where the toilets are as she will literally tell me as she’s about to burst that she needs to go and we have to run to them (having to look for them wastes time and means more chance of accidents) – we’re working on this with physio but it’s hard and common with her condition for them to not feel the need to go. We’re strengthening the muscles in that area so hopefully when she does realise she needs to go she has enough time to get there without accidents.
Recently DDs been coming out of school in her spare uniform after toileting accidents more often than normal (usually have 1-2 accidents a week, it’s not 4-5 a week). Usually there would be a note in her home-school diary but I’m not getting this which suggests it’s happening outside of class.
DD has said there is one particular lunchtime lady (as she calls them) that insists she cannot go inside to go to the toilet after they’ve been sent out to play, DD is not confident enough to say she has to go and I’m not sure if the lunchtime supervisors are aware of the issues. DD is not distressed and says this lady always helps her get changed when she has an accident so I want to approach from that point of view rather than all guns blazing.
So would you email school about this or leave it as DD is not upset? I'm not sure lunchtime access to toilets classes as a reasonable adjustment.
For added context we will eventually build up to her holding her bladder/bowel for a few minutes but we have to strengthen the other muscles first in order to do this.